Hello everyone! Got home 2 days ago, which made it exactly 1 week in hospital after abdominoperineal resection. Surgeon had to remove ovaries and tubes as well---they were swollen and ugly. No cancer. I got the last drain removed today from my bum----oh thank you! Abdominal incision looks really great---the buttcrack is REALLY ouchy---but all in good time. The ileostomy intimidates me a lot. I am scared to change the wafer, etc. Right now I am using the hollister thing--and I'm not really fond of it. It's quite bulky--but I know it will take time to pick and choose what brand as the stoma will have to recover postoperatively as well. Here are my questions: How do you sleep (mine's on the right side just slightly below belly button). How do you shower? Where do you put it (inside your underwear or outside--down your pants or outside your pants)? How often do you change the wafer? I have a home health nurse visiting twice weekly to check out my wounds and help with ileostomy. I believe she is coming tomorrow---but what better people to ask than the ones who do it every single day! Sorry I am being a little paranoid---still emotional I think from the "trauma" of such a big procedure. When I woke up in ICU my first thought was "Well I didn't die!" Yikes---no way that would have happened----I was on every prayer list from here to who knows where! Thank you everyone--I am going to bed now---still kinda whipped from the surgery! :soledance: Snap (Dana)