advice dealing with family
What kind of advice can you guys give me about dealing with family?
They get upset hearing about my "bowell movements" so they say,
but when you can't drive a car, and you go over to family's houses,
you know, family picks you up, and you don't leave until the person
you rode with leaves,
for the holidays (thanksgiving, christmas, whatever)
they get upset when you don't want to stay all day/night long...
Why I can't stay over, is because I have diarrhea to deal with
sometimes, or when I have a BM in general, I can't do it in
public or at family's houses because I have Fistulas and can't
just take a "sitz bath" with me wherever I go.. I'm allergic
to every kind of wet wipe that exists on the market, I've tried that,
only thing that works is sitting in a sitz bath for 5 minutes after every
BM, or taking a bath, neither of which I can do away from home.
my question is, what do I tell family?
They don't want to hear about my BM's, but ya gotta tell 'em
something. I try to just tell them I have a "flair up" but they
don't know what that means.
Any advice? because I don't mind getting personal, but i understand
family doesn't want to hear about it. Well, if they don't want to hear
about it, then what are they expecting to hear when I don't feel like
staying? ya know what I mean?
because if I don't tell them something, they complain about me behind
my back claiming I don't love my family, or something stupid like that.
My brother inlaw especially really lays it into me if I don't spend so much
time with the family on holidays. They just don't understand......
What kind of advice can you guys give me about dealing with family?
They get upset hearing about my "bowell movements" so they say,
but when you can't drive a car, and you go over to family's houses,
you know, family picks you up, and you don't leave until the person
you rode with leaves,
for the holidays (thanksgiving, christmas, whatever)
they get upset when you don't want to stay all day/night long...
Why I can't stay over, is because I have diarrhea to deal with
sometimes, or when I have a BM in general, I can't do it in
public or at family's houses because I have Fistulas and can't
just take a "sitz bath" with me wherever I go.. I'm allergic
to every kind of wet wipe that exists on the market, I've tried that,
only thing that works is sitting in a sitz bath for 5 minutes after every
BM, or taking a bath, neither of which I can do away from home.
my question is, what do I tell family?
They don't want to hear about my BM's, but ya gotta tell 'em
something. I try to just tell them I have a "flair up" but they
don't know what that means.
Any advice? because I don't mind getting personal, but i understand
family doesn't want to hear about it. Well, if they don't want to hear
about it, then what are they expecting to hear when I don't feel like
staying? ya know what I mean?
because if I don't tell them something, they complain about me behind
my back claiming I don't love my family, or something stupid like that.
My brother inlaw especially really lays it into me if I don't spend so much
time with the family on holidays. They just don't understand......