Hi, this is a difficult position to be in, not like most people think. When trying to gain, or maintain and not loose more i found ensure enlive to be pretty good, also if you cant hold a lot of fluid due to pain boost came out with a compact size with like 350 calories. thick, but do able. (I prefer organic, but eh when push comes to shove...) Also when loosing weight, standing in the kitchen, using a blender just isn't going to happen for me. When i get to where i can i use Vega protein 26 gr/greens, organic milk, frozen organic bananas remove the peels before freezing (instead of ice seriously makes many protein shakes more creamy), peanut butter, organic ice cream, organic honey and drink up (yum).
I did see a nutritionist, her ideas were really crap, so much i thought she was joking.
ya, 3000, 3500 would be nice, but if you feel like crap,& food/liquids are painful then the 3000 3500 is a reach. I try to maintain first, then reach for the gain once things settle down. I don't push my guts/body to over work. you can feel when you are. Also i rest, meditate, try to pamper yourself a little/or a lot, drink plenty of water, sips throughout the day, get some fresh air, and tell yourself your will feel better. Oh, i found some pretty good protein bars at trader joes they are called Power Crunch, they are like a totally yummy wafer cookie with about 13gr protein. I try to go nutrient dense and not huge wasted space of junk fillers. But eh, sometimes i bend a bit.
Hang in there, think the best, try not to stress too much.I hope you feel better everyday.