Hello, I am posting on here to find a way to help my partner who has been diagnosed with crohns, he had been ill for quite a while and refused to go and doctors eventually he ended up not being able to walk and being rushed into hospital, it turned out he had crohns that had caused abseses in his spine and pelvis caused by holes in the bowel so he was told he might be paralysed if he got well so after emerancy op to remove a large portion of the small bowel and drain abseses and being left in intensive care for a week he nearly died twice needing resuatated he was left with a stoma bag and he was in hospital for 6 weeks in total docs wanted to keep him longer but he just wanted to be at home thank god he didnt end up paralysed and lived through that, at home he also got a blood clot in leg, so the last 4 months I have tried everything to help him but he just wants to give up on life he is still in a lot of pain because the damage to his spine and the nerves, thou he is tryin to get out and about and do small things, even though he is tryin is some areas he has become impossible to be around he cant handle the stoma and feels like a failure in life and says things like he no good and useless and I should leave him which I dont want to do I love him so much and hate what he is going through I will be at his side no matter what is to come, the only thing is he left 4 days ago to go to his parents, he wants to me to forget him and he been saying that if he cant have a reversal he will committe suicide so its best he leaves now, im at my wits end as how to help, he has been so argumentive, im scared of losing him to this awful illness is there anyway I can help he wont seek help for himself we are both very young in our twentys and the fact he has a stoma does not bother because I see it as it saved his life, any advice as how to help would be really appreciated. Thanks in advance