Hi, this is my first post in this forum.
My son who's 21 was just recently diagnosed with Crohn's. So far Remicade (on for 2 months) and now Methotrexate hasn't alleviated his pain and fatigue much at all. Here's my dilemma...he's a college student with a difficult major. He's gone to the college and now has accommodations in place, thank God. So the professors are being very understanding of his malady.
That helps but the real problem now is he can't get out of bed in the morning due to extreme fatigue!!!
He's missing crucial classes and will soon be loosing his academic scholarships if this keeps up. I've accepted that will probably be the case but I don't want him to end up having to drop out of school.
Here's my question:
Should I continue the compassionate support I've been giving (along with trying to gently motivate him) or is it time to get tough with him? Tell him I'm disappointed that he isn't getting to his classes and he needs to suck it up and get going?
It seems cruel but on the other hand sometimes the harder things are what is needed to get by in this world. KWIM?
I don't know what it is like to have Crohn's and I thought I'd ask you all to get your take. Thanks for reading this!!
My son who's 21 was just recently diagnosed with Crohn's. So far Remicade (on for 2 months) and now Methotrexate hasn't alleviated his pain and fatigue much at all. Here's my dilemma...he's a college student with a difficult major. He's gone to the college and now has accommodations in place, thank God. So the professors are being very understanding of his malady.
That helps but the real problem now is he can't get out of bed in the morning due to extreme fatigue!!!
He's missing crucial classes and will soon be loosing his academic scholarships if this keeps up. I've accepted that will probably be the case but I don't want him to end up having to drop out of school.
Here's my question:
Should I continue the compassionate support I've been giving (along with trying to gently motivate him) or is it time to get tough with him? Tell him I'm disappointed that he isn't getting to his classes and he needs to suck it up and get going?
It seems cruel but on the other hand sometimes the harder things are what is needed to get by in this world. KWIM?
I don't know what it is like to have Crohn's and I thought I'd ask you all to get your take. Thanks for reading this!!