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Ugh.... after talking about redoing my self-image w/Peach Schnapps (wub you), I decided to make this thread.

If you look in my sig, there's a great quote in there about fear. It's one that I have been following for a long time. So.... here goes.

I'm very self-conscious about my ribs. They stick out really far, and the right one more than the left. They're just awkward.

And yeah..... little ego has posted pics. I'm sorry they're so big. Usually I have no problem on Photofucket- I mean Photobucket, but tonight it's being a PITA!!!!! :poo:

* I want it known that I took these in the bathroom, just for you * :wub:

Front shot: doesn't look horrible, right?
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Wellll.......... now look at the side shot:
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No, ladies and germs, that is NOT altered in any way, nor is it a saggy yet pointy tit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That.... those is my retahded ribs. Mongloid ribs.


And that crease in my upper stomach - WTF is THAT about??? Am I a Transformer? Is that where I get folded in half?!

So - if you have the guts - what are YOU self-conscious about that you're willing to share with us?
 
Wow! They do stick out Ris! But you are looking really good and slim though :)

I don't even know where to start with what I am self conscious about! The list is endless! Maybe I'll work up to putting up some pics myself?
 
Ugh and ya know, even when I was like 55 pounds heavier, they STILL stuck out!!!

Meh... that's what I have to say about them lol
 
Actually, I'm becoming self conscious about my chest and stomach. Kind of bothered by the last time we watched Smallville and my wife kept going on about the guy that plays Oliver Queen's friggin six pack abs to another girl that was here. ugh.

I sat there for half the evening quietly steaming as to why mentioning that the new intro pic of Allyson Mack was a more flattering pic than those in past seasons turned into a 15 minute continual rewind of Oliver Queen's bare torso.

:(
 
Just do some of that fancy special effects paint on your abs Dan....Could you do mine too?

I hate Angelina Jolie because my hubby is fascinated with her. It hurts....
 
imisspopcorn said:
Just do some of that fancy special effects paint on your abs Dan....Could you do mine too?

I hate Angelina Jolie because my hubby is fascinated with her. It hurts....
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You are WAY prettier than her carrie :)
 
My big thing is having bags under my eyes. I've had them forever, even before the whole fatigue thing. I HATE them!!!!!! I'd swap for your ribs any day Rissy!!
 
imisspopcorn said:
Just do some of that fancy special effects paint on your abs Dan....Could you do mine too?

I hate Angelina Jolie because my hubby is fascinated with her. It hurts....
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Whaddafuck?????? BLOW JOB LIPS????

Dude, Angelina Jolie is one nasty bitch. And um.. no self-respecting girl sleeps with her brother!!! Or has sex with Billy Bob Thornton LOL

In all seriousness, Carrie, she is nothing but botox lips. You are gorgeous.
 
Pirate said:
What I am the most self concious about is not having any teeth. It really does bug me and I've had to sets of dentures that no matter what they did, they just didn't fit right so I give up on them.

I hate looking like some inbred hillbilly when I'm not. depressed now.
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We all love you, with or without teeth!!!
 
Ah Pirate.....we lub ya no matter what.....I wonder if they have trouble fitting you because of weight fluctuations. Sounds crazy, but I've heard it can happen.
 
Pirate said:
What I am the most self concious about is not having any teeth. It really does bug me and I've had to sets of dentures that no matter what they did, they just didn't fit right so I give up on them.

I hate looking like some inbred hillbilly when I'm not. depressed now.
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Damn, you just had to mention teeth.....yeah, that's why I rarely give full smiles. I hate photoshopping my pics afterward. I don't know which would be worse no teeth or the poor excuse for teeth I have now.
 
I am self conscious about my moobs and belly! I will post pics tho, cause I'm cool like dat!
 
I'm self concious about just about everything.....being overweight sucks! However, I is what I is, so i try to accept that and love myself!

AND, you're all hotties!
 
Weight is a big issue

havin a Michelin man body with massive moobs isn't somethin to be proud of lol
 
I'm self conscious about alot of things now...my scar, my bag, my sad disappearing boobs...but before all this happened it was my teeth (crooked as hell but I won't get braces) and my nose (thanks Dad!). I have great legs though...lol

@Pirate...I know they're expensive, but have you thought about implants? Or part implants part dentures? Just a thought....
 
I didn't mean to make this thread silly. I have some things I'm very self conscious about and I'll post pics tomorrow. Including the odd "extra" jaw bones I have.
 
I had my adult canine teeth grow in about the same time I was diagnosed with Crohn's. Neither of them grew in right and dentists were afraid to put braces in because of Crohn's. So I've had crooked teeth since I was a teen, but it never really bothered me all that much until my last girlfriend. She brought them up now and then... I remember one time she said to me "You would be perfect if it wasn't for your teeth." And I'm pretty sure she meant it as compliment, but it sure didn't feel like one...

I can be a bit self conscious about my weight, but I try to remind myself that having a bit of extra weight is a good thing for me. My weight tends to yo-yo so having a bit extra is good so that I don't lose too much.
 
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I am self conscious about my teeth, too; I have a gap between my front teeth. Most of the time it doesn't bother me too much, but I always end up smiling awkwardly for the camera. :B
 
That is just wrong on many levels!! I mean who wears sharks teeth anymore? lmao
 
I'm self-conscious about my elbows. I am big boned but I don't have any muscles/weight to fill in the bone so my elbows stick out on the inside about an inch. It makes me angry sometimes. I just can't ever get them to fill out.

I really don't care how my teeth look. I'm a believer that our teeth are kind of like our fingerprints. We're all different. I don't want to have the same teeth as someone else has.
 
I used to be TERRIBLY self-conscious of my teeth. My overbite was ridiculously bad... like so bad that when I bit down, my bottom teeth were hitting the roof of my mouth. And my bottom teeth were terribly crowded. My top teeth were crooked, but not nearly as bad as the bottom. Unfortunately, the biggest flaw was that my two front teeth overlapped. I hated it. Sooooo, about 16 months ago, at 23 years old, I got braced. :) Best decision I ever made, not only for the vanity but the health of my teeth. A poor/improper/not aligned bite and crooked teeth are WAY worse than anyone realized. It's not entirely vanity. It wears and destroys teeth so badly. I'd prefer to keep my natural teeth forever, so I'll do anything and everything to keep them in the best health possible.

The braces should be off in the next... hmmmmm... three to eight months or so. :D

Other than that, definitely my extra pudge. And the fact that I'm fairly certain my head is too small for my body. And my eyes are two different shapes/sizes. OH! And the boobs. I know everyone's are different sizes, but I feel like mine are a noticeable difference.
 
You all look fine

wen u resemble the comic book guy from the simpsons then u got troubles lol
- like me hahaha
 
my.december said:
lol. Sounds like we need to switch then! :)
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now wouldn't THAT be a scientific marvel? You're prettier than me so I'll happily have your head as long as I can keep my own brain and still be me but prettier!!!
 
Oh shush yourself with that prettier talk before I decide I need a vacation and come smack you for it. :p

lol, and then you'd get to see in person that a little softening and sharpening and such in Photoshop make me look a LOT nicer in my pic than in real life. So I wouldn't have to smack you anyways because you'd retract.
 
You're all beautiful. Popular culture tends to have a narrow definition of beauty, but what do they know? They can't see past the plastic and the glitter.
 
my.december said:
Oh shush yourself with that prettier talk before I decide I need a vacation and come smack you for it. :p

lol, and then you'd get to see in person that a little softening and sharpening and such in Photoshop make me look a LOT nicer in my pic than in real life. So I wouldn't have to smack you anyways because you'd retract.
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LOL!!!
 
Alright, I'll bite. I've got some extra weight hanging around...but as Wiles said, I am ok with it at this point knowing it could be the other way around and I could be sickly thin.

However ... I'm with Carrie. It's the baby tummy. I have always been self conscious of it, even when I was thinner. In fact, when I'm thinner I think it looks worse.

I just accept that this is me ... ugly scars and all. Nobody is perfect, nor would I want to be. I just try to keep reminding myself I have pretty eyes and a great rack. ;) hahahaha
 
My own issues are weird, as I go for a specific physique, so beyond those goals of muscle shape/size and development as well as fat trimming plans, I'd say the lingering acne that comes and goes from working out now and then. It's from testosterone, and not really from "traditional" acne sources like bacteria and oil, so it's more complicated than usual. It's not like ProActive or Neutrogena etc... will do the trick. The dermatologist can't treat it the same way, and it's kind of unfair of me to stop working out for one thing to get better and sacrifice my goals.

But about my bone structure/insertion points for my muscles (Jeff probably knows about that), I wish my wrists were a bit thicker, as in comparison to the rest of my arms (humerus, ulna/radius), they're thinner, so it takes more forearm work to compensate. Jared Padalecki from Supernatural has thiner wrists too, so do a few famous bodybuilders. After a while of working around it, you only notice it when someone points it out. My bicep muscles are also a little thinner than they should be for such insertion points, so they won't look optimal until I'm done with my goals.

I hate sounding cocky, but I like the rest of what I was given (genetics) as far as height, width, insertion point, shape of calves, lats, quads, shoulder girdle width etc... I REALLY like that I've got a nice width to displace the muscle and all, and that my bone skeletal structure will look right with the mass I want to have. That's just a crap shoot (well, it's genetic, but still...)...And I like that I have nice calves and a great pair of glute muscles. I like all the rest of the muscle groups, really, although, I DO have a slightly asymmetrical pair of trap muscles, and the left is actually higher up than the right. No issues with the rest (I like my eyes, teeth, nose, though my ears are a little big for my head, and they stick out...they're the same size now as they were when I was a kid, it was worse then!)

Oh, and I don't like how hard it is for my hair to get straight, as it's naturally wavy, and I hate that. When it's humid, it's almost curly, it sucks. My fiancee has me self-conscious about my feet being "flat" now, even though I have no issues from them, no back or leg issues, no issues running or lifting heavy weights. I have little of any arch there, and she says it's "wrong", even though her arch is very excessive and she's supposed to wear a special sole add-on for some shoes because of it. I think she's just used to such an "indent" under her feet (and her family's, since it's genetic) that she sees my feet and gets weirded out.
 
Ris, you're so pretty!! & without those ribs of yours, you'd be all caved in, like a squished up empty juice carton. Now THAT would be weird. No two bodies are identical. The world would be an extremely dull place if we all looked like clones. Individuality is beautiful.
 
I am large and in charge. I hate feeling fat... my boobs are too big. They feel like fat (not sexy at all). I also hate how its distributed, yeah I've got that hourglass shape but do you know how hard it is to find clothes that fit an hourglass shape? If it fits my waist, it cuts off my boob bloodflow, if it fits my boobs then I'm wearing a tent around my waist. Don't get me started on finding pants that you don't have to keep hiking up.

But one thing that never changes whether I'm skinny or fat is my large numbers of stretch marks. I got them when I was a little kid and I've had them ever since. I used to be so self conscious about them to the point that I wouldn't wear a bikini or ever show my stomach (not that I would currently) There's just no way to get rid of them.

I've also started getting spider vein on my legs. I hate those too. Apparently my mom says its because my skin is very sensitive and translucent. And that brings me to another point... my skin is so effing see-through. If they can't find a vein on my arm for IVs all they have to do is pull up a pant leg and 700 billion are staring them in the face.

I like my hair color though, and my feet are nice.
 
You're a smoking, steaming (erm, volcanic? no, too digestive-sounding), voluptuous red head!!!....every vascularly-challenged-hourglass-"see-through"-freckled part of you! Bruce would agree! :)

Yours sound like my fiancee's issues. She complains about EVERYthing you just did. The bosom complaints, the stretchmarks, the clothes issues (when she's frustrated, calls the tiny clothes "for the skinny bitches" and it upsets her that models are basically anorexic) the feeling of being "fat" (despite its invalidity)...but, the vein issue is mainly behind her knees, and I don't think it's odd for her age (23) and I think it's out of sight, out of mind on that.

OMGawd the hourglass.....drool. They need to make more clothes for women like that, and women like that need to be fine with themselves. Why can't we go back to when art was at its peak, when the Renaissance showed the figure in its glory? The most gorgeous art ever, and it was of curves! (and pubic hair)

I know it *seems* the world is molded around stick-women (who choose to be thin, not suffer it as a byproduct of something like IBD), but hey, this world invented mullets, pet rocks and is content with the narcissistic depletion and subsequent annihilation of this fine planet's beauty. You women are a part of that beauty. Don't change. :)

(my philosophy kickstart for the day)
 
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I'm going to say my body, in general after having children. It's funny how different we perceive ourselves. I get complimented often on how I don't look as if I've had three kids, but I'd like to get more toned. Luckily, I carried all three pregnancies strictly in the belly, so I didn't pack on a ton of extra weight in my arms, legs, etc. Here I am in August 2007. Bless my heart for trying to wear regular clothes, bwaha!
This is my, "I'm lactating and ready to kick your ass" pose at 37 weeks!
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What use to my a flat, toned stomach, LOL
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Wiles said:
You're all beautiful. Popular culture tends to have a narrow definition of beauty, but what do they know? They can't see past the plastic and the glitter.
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I *completely* agree with you on this Wiles!! I hate the magazine stands...they warp us! BTW - your x gf was silly - you are hot no matter what!!

Ris - your ribs are different, yes - but slather some sauce on them - and I bet they are extra licious to naw on!! ;) Just more to hug on when you get hugged!

I'd have to say my crap is mostly not being physically fit enough. I think the repeated use of steroids has permanently screwed my metabolism and I have cellulite that neither my twin or my Mom have and they are both way more overweight than I am. I just don't get that. Had it even when I was pretty thin. Oh, and this flipping rash - but I can't really control that because it is from the Remi - and I need the Remi!
 
violetcreams said:
Ris, you're so pretty!! & without those ribs of yours, you'd be all caved in, like a squished up empty juice carton. Now THAT would be weird. No two bodies are identical. The world would be an extremely dull place if we all looked like clones. Individuality is beautiful.
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Violet, you just wait til I finish that OJ in the fridge!!!

I'll take a pic of it and I together and we'll see if there's a resemblance!! :ycool:
 
If you'll notice.. um... my right arm (w/tat) is bigger than the left. That' bothers me a bit also.
 
Mayhap they disappeared when he raised his arms. They tend to hide that way. Guess if people are showing off their flab I may as well try to take a pic or two.
 
Ris not sure what ya worried about there

I know a few ppl that kill for a body like urs
 
^ dats what I"M saying!

So wonder if I can grind off that extra jaw bone??
 
Farm, there is nothing wrong with your body. I can't see any man boobs there. But I would be worried about that extra jaw bone - weirdo!!!! ;)
 
That isn't the weirdest thing, but I can't capture a good photo of it yet.
 
Do you guys know that piece of skin that holds your upper lip to your gum?

I have 2 of em and they are VERY defined! It's very odd. I want to cut one of them.
 
farm said:
Do you guys know that piece of skin that holds your upper lip to your gum?

I have 2 of em and they are VERY defined! It's very odd. I want to cut one of them.
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Dude, you are a FREAK!

:ylol2:
 
They use to clip the upper one to get the gap to close on the upper teeth. Joe had it done when he was a kid.
 
yeah, me thinks cutting it would hurt. I have a weird little gum flap under my tongue that i want to cut off.

i also see no moobs. :p I think you just wanted to show of your sexy physique. ;)

Bens, i'm also extremely self concious about my acne, which, strangely enough, is also due to extra testosterone. :( I also have a beard and moustache. :p I hate my eyebrows too, need pluckage nearly daily to stop from becoming old man brows. :(
 

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