HI! My husband of 13 years has had Crohn's for the last two decades. He does Remicade infusions every 6 to 7 weeks and has done this since his initial diagnosis. I did not know him when he was first diagnosed but from what he has told me, what he went through before they figured out what was wrong was horrendous and he is so glad the the Remicade has worked as well as it has for as long as it has. His only option for when the Remicade does not work for him any longer is to have a colostomy bag put in place. This does not frighten him in any way but he is worried that I will look at him differently. In the last three years, he has begun to develop some issues such a transsphincteric fistula. This has caused an already bad situation at his back door to become even worse. I am the one that has to treat the area when it becomes inflamed and irritated but it is still hard for him to have to let me help him. I want to make it clear that I do not mind in the slightest that I have been asked to do this. He, on the other hand does not see it this way. He feels that I look at him as one of my patients that I care for and I am having some issues in trying to convince him that he is not. That, for better or for worse, we are in this together. I was wondering is there are any suggestions out there that could help him deal with his fears since my reassurance does not seem to be sinking in. I can not imagine what a full blown attack would look like since we have been lucky enough that his is in remission and that his treatments are working. I struggle with him struggling and was just looking for other spouses who might be going through the same thing.