Completrly new to this but do not know where else to look for advice.
So I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years now and until about two or three months ago he never had any major problems with Crohns. He had been diagnosed about ten yeara ago but I didnt know him until we met, at which time he had no noticeable symptoms or side effects. We frequently enjoyed days out, trips to the cinema or sporting events, went for dinner every week.
Around three months ago he relapsed and spent a while in hospital, he is now receiving the Humira vaccination. I visited him every day in hospital and did as much as possible to try to help him come to terms with his situation again.
Since then he has been quiet, uncommunicative, grumpy. i know he is in a lot of pain and I have been trying to be supportive, helping him around the house, sitting in with him watching (his) tv shows. All intimacy is gone. Not even a hug or kiss in the cheek, or even a stroke of the hand as we watch tv.
Recently this upset me so much that I decided to act with him the same unresponsive way he is with me. Short text messages or replies. Trying to seem uninterested. This does not seem to faze him as it fazes me. I dont think he realises how hard I am trying for him, and how unappreciated I feel?
I am trying my hardest to be supportive, to not trivialize his pain and discomfort, but I feel that we are drifting apart and this greatly upsets me.
So I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years now and until about two or three months ago he never had any major problems with Crohns. He had been diagnosed about ten yeara ago but I didnt know him until we met, at which time he had no noticeable symptoms or side effects. We frequently enjoyed days out, trips to the cinema or sporting events, went for dinner every week.
Around three months ago he relapsed and spent a while in hospital, he is now receiving the Humira vaccination. I visited him every day in hospital and did as much as possible to try to help him come to terms with his situation again.
Since then he has been quiet, uncommunicative, grumpy. i know he is in a lot of pain and I have been trying to be supportive, helping him around the house, sitting in with him watching (his) tv shows. All intimacy is gone. Not even a hug or kiss in the cheek, or even a stroke of the hand as we watch tv.
Recently this upset me so much that I decided to act with him the same unresponsive way he is with me. Short text messages or replies. Trying to seem uninterested. This does not seem to faze him as it fazes me. I dont think he realises how hard I am trying for him, and how unappreciated I feel?
I am trying my hardest to be supportive, to not trivialize his pain and discomfort, but I feel that we are drifting apart and this greatly upsets me.