Hi Everyone,
I was just seeking some advice on what to do about my current situation. I met my boyfriend of almost three years when I was at my healthiest (healthiest meaning I had just had a resection of my small bowel and I was healthy and symptom free). We love each other and have talked about marriage (we are both in our twenties, graduating college). At the time, he did not know of my disease and the terrible pain, both emotional and physical, I had went through for 4 years before the resection. He now knows that I have Crohn's but still does not know how horrible this disease can actually get/be.... My symptoms are coming back and I am so scared for myself because I do not want to go through this again, and I feel so bad that he has no idea what he is getting himself into by being with me since the symptoms can definitely become worse. I have it in my head that if the symptoms do get even worse, that I should break up with him because I could not stand the thought of making him become my caretaker more than my lover. Plus, I would rather be the one to break it off rather than him saying my disease was too much for him to handle. Nor do I want him to stay with me out of pity.
Any advice? Am I irrational for thinking this and planning on breaking up with him? Lately I have been so withdrawn from him and my friends because the prospect of this flare makes me so sad and I feel hopeless.
Thank you
I was just seeking some advice on what to do about my current situation. I met my boyfriend of almost three years when I was at my healthiest (healthiest meaning I had just had a resection of my small bowel and I was healthy and symptom free). We love each other and have talked about marriage (we are both in our twenties, graduating college). At the time, he did not know of my disease and the terrible pain, both emotional and physical, I had went through for 4 years before the resection. He now knows that I have Crohn's but still does not know how horrible this disease can actually get/be.... My symptoms are coming back and I am so scared for myself because I do not want to go through this again, and I feel so bad that he has no idea what he is getting himself into by being with me since the symptoms can definitely become worse. I have it in my head that if the symptoms do get even worse, that I should break up with him because I could not stand the thought of making him become my caretaker more than my lover. Plus, I would rather be the one to break it off rather than him saying my disease was too much for him to handle. Nor do I want him to stay with me out of pity.
Any advice? Am I irrational for thinking this and planning on breaking up with him? Lately I have been so withdrawn from him and my friends because the prospect of this flare makes me so sad and I feel hopeless.
Thank you