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New Member - Just looking for people who understand

Hello all. I just joined this site. I was diagnosed in May of 2008. Tried several meds and was hospitalized several times over the next few months. In November of 2008 I had a resection and had 18 inches of my small intestine and my ileum removed. In the mist of all of this I was confused. I didn't understand the disease. I was not happy with my doctor. He was part of a large hospital and I saw him once in the whole time I was his patient. He never even came to see me while I was at the hospital - it was student doctors or his associates. I loved my surgeon and after my surgery I was in a much better place. I found a new doctor that was not a crohn's specialist but a GI and I loved her. She listened to me and my symptoms and believes what I say. I started Humira back up after my surgery and have been on it since January 2009. I was doing every other week injections until July 2012 when I was pushed up to every week. However I have never been symptom free. I still have bathroom issues and probably go as much as 6-8 times a day. I still have pain (but can be controlled with pain meds). And I am always tired. Feel as though I could sometimes fall asleep at my desk at work. I guess I never expected to be pain free. I just assumed that I would always have some stuff to deal with. Over the years I have had several tests but never a colonoscopy since my first diagnosis. My doctor ordered one that I had done last week. I had polyps that were biopsied and was told there was no inflammation. I was told the Humira was helping keep the crohns under control. But am I missing something? How can you know that? After all the disease was originally in my small intestine. My fear is that my doctor is trying so hard but my case may be out of her realm of what she knows to do. I have tried a few other doctors in the area but none I have cared for. It is hard to find one that listens to you. One that actually pays attention to what you say and what your body is doing. I have a wonderful family that is very helpful and a husband that adores me. But in the end they still don't understand. They don't know what it is like. I work outside the home and have 4 kids with very busy schedules. I don't want sympathy - I just want someone who can relate!

Thanks for listening to my story.
 

Artisan105

Yondaime
WOW! First of all my Dear please calm down. :] Take some deep breaths. Yea, most people don't fully understand what you are going through unless they have Crohn's or IBS themselves; but that doesn't mean they don't love you nor they care for you any less. I am sure your husband is a bit confused or frustrated or even upset a little but it's not with you its just with the situation.

Gosh, try to not stress, I know it's difficult not to because you have to take care of 4 kids and a husband by default. -_- wow. And on top of that your health, meds, doctor visits etc. Make sure you do your research on what you can eat or not. Look at the diet forum to find a list of things people have tried. Remember your body is unique so some things might work for you or not. So try them and keep a journal. Avoid store bought processed foods. Stay away from citrus fruits especially in the morning. Avoid raw vegetables unless steamed, baked, or cooked. Stay away from milk unless lactose free.

Hang in there. Stay positive. I know you feel like there is an invisible weight on your back every morning till night. I know you have lots of pain. Try to use the pain meds as needed only. If you take them often you might get addicted to them. Just be careful. Why? Because it is hard to get off of them after some time, also it causes constipation - this will cause more pain/ discomfort in the end.

I am surprised the doctor gave you Humira first instead of Remicade. The Humira is better but most doctors keep it as a trump card to use as the final solution but maybe he/she wanted to give you the best up front :)

Anyways Hang in there! Praying for you!
 
Thanks for your response and sorry if I seemed a mess. I am ok - really! Just a stressful time right now. I do understand that my family loves me and just wants the best for me and to feel better. I think sometimes in that quest they forget about what I want or how I feel.

I don't take the pain meds every day - only as needed. Some times I can go several days without them. I have asked for a higher dose when I was in worse shape and asked for my dose to be lowered when things were better. I have NEVER had a problem with the constipation from them.

I was given a choice between Humira and Remicade. At the time I opted for Humira. I felt that would fit best in my busy lifestyle as to be able to administer it myself at home.

Again - didn't mean for that post to come off sounding bad. Guess just feeling a little off these days.
 

Artisan105

Yondaime
Thanks for your response and sorry if I seemed a mess. I am ok - really! Just a stressful time right now. I do understand that my family loves me and just wants the best for me and to feel better. I think sometimes in that quest they forget about what I want or how I feel.

I don't take the pain meds every day - only as needed. Some times I can go several days without them. I have asked for a higher dose when I was in worse shape and asked for my dose to be lowered when things were better. I have NEVER had a problem with the constipation from them.

I was given a choice between Humira and Remicade. At the time I opted for Humira. I felt that would fit best in my busy lifestyle as to be able to administer it myself at home.

Again - didn't mean for that post to come off sounding bad. Guess just feeling a little off these days.
You never have to apologize to me or anyone. Most people here will fully understand you like me :) I been through it all so if you need support or have any questions feel free to contact me. If you feel like something is bothering you, it is best to address it up front with whoever it is rather than keep it to yourself. Also if you are in a stressful environment try to remove yourself from it or if you can't try to adjust somethings to better your life. :) Ttyl
 

Jim (POPS)

Jim (Pops)
Location
Antioch, Ca
You have found the place that most epole will understand you. I do, I've been through the samething (or close to it) as you.

I find the chatroom is a good place to go for support. We don't only talk about the IBD, but we also make fun of the "Normies" ha ha ha , its not there fault they don't understand, no one could ever understand if they haven't had IBD, so come and join us in chat. most of the time there is someone there around 5-9 California

Hope to see ya there soon.

Jim(Pops)
 
Yep, this forum has provided sanity when friends and family just don't have a clue!

You know they love you, but they just don't get it!

I had surgery 4 weeks ago after having Crohn's for probably 12 years undiagnosed plus 3 diagnosed (and medicated) My partner just don't understand! - the exhaustion, the pain, the frustration, the embarrassment!

Here I can find some people who share some common experience, which brings me down off the ceiling sometimes!

PS 4 kids and a job, I have serious admiration! I have 2 kids and do voluntary work, and it just about wipes me out!

Hugs XXX
 
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