new to this forum stuff..need advice..relationships?
hi, i'm 19yrs old and ive had crohns for about 7yrs nw, and have had it really bad since diagnosis. Previously i had a colostomy(1yr) then had to have it changed to an ileastomy (left me with some really hideous scaring) and have had it for 3 years now. Ive gotten use to the fact that i've got crohns, but havent got round the fact ive got a stoma. I dnt like it at all, even though i am comfortable with it. Sometimes i forget i even have a stoma when im out and about with mates, till it fills up! Not everyone that i know, knows that i have a stoma, not even my college teachers when i started college, apart from the friends i grew up with since childhood. N even they forget ive got that blimin bag.
I'm currently on my first few dates with a girl that i really like and we are just getting to know each other. I really dont know how i'm going to tell her about my stoma or my crohns. If i dont like my stoma how can i expect someone else to like me with it. How should i go about telling her? any help plz..
hi, i'm 19yrs old and ive had crohns for about 7yrs nw, and have had it really bad since diagnosis. Previously i had a colostomy(1yr) then had to have it changed to an ileastomy (left me with some really hideous scaring) and have had it for 3 years now. Ive gotten use to the fact that i've got crohns, but havent got round the fact ive got a stoma. I dnt like it at all, even though i am comfortable with it. Sometimes i forget i even have a stoma when im out and about with mates, till it fills up! Not everyone that i know, knows that i have a stoma, not even my college teachers when i started college, apart from the friends i grew up with since childhood. N even they forget ive got that blimin bag.
I'm currently on my first few dates with a girl that i really like and we are just getting to know each other. I really dont know how i'm going to tell her about my stoma or my crohns. If i dont like my stoma how can i expect someone else to like me with it. How should i go about telling her? any help plz..