looks like i wont have to go the private surgery route just yet after seeing the consultant again, but still in a bit of a dilemna as the surgery to take out the piece thats flaring up and narrowing isnt as straightforward as id imagined ,the hosp made an appointment for me to see the stoma nurse, which i told them was a waste of her time, showed me what was involved with one etc,, and given some box with bits and pieces inside it to try at home lol, needless to say its still in the boot of the car ill return it on the next appt so someone can get the benefit of it, lol, seems that if the surgeon doesnt like the join he makes and thinks it needs a rest, ill be left with a bag or else the new join and the area at the tail end will be under too much pressure and cause serious harm so it seems if they operate the decision is out of my hands, as to the outcome , as i wont accept a bag at any cost, and feels like im putting pressure on the surgeon to do something against his will to do his best for the patient, so its an appointment on the 25th again to see what happens next surgery wise