Since my last bowel resection surgery 5 years ago I have had an increasing loss of bowel control. I suffer from leakages and have been wearing diapers ever since. I've had this incredible urges to go and have had to develop several strategies to minimize accidents.
Since I cannot absolutely afford to have accidents at work I do a preemptive strike of 1 Imodium in the morning, if the day is bad I take another Imodium. This slows it all down and the sense of urgency stops.
I had a job interview about 4 months back, had lunch and was on my way to the bathroom, everything normal. All of a sudden this massive urge comes and I was only 15 feet from the bathroom. I stopped, squeezed my butt and stood there for 15 seconds. I resumed the walking and it all started coming out on its own. I crapped my diapers, my dress pants it was a massive surprise. No warning. Luckily there was a mall nearby and went into Macys. They tell me that the mens Macys is at the OTHER END OF THE MALL. I had to walk through the entire mall with crap stains in the backside. Tried not to think about how it will look like.
I picked black dress pants and took it to the clerk, he starts cross-selling me on Macys cards, on special he has, I lost it: I told him that I needed to change my pants right away that this is an emergency and please ring my sale, he looked flustered.
The interview went well and I got the job 3 months ago. I have only had two accidents at work even though I am very vigilant when I need to do preemptive strikes to the bathroom.
Wanted to get your strategies in preventing accidents.
First and foremost for me: when I have a strong urge I resist going to the bathroom right there and then. The problem is that once I started walking to the bathroom 15 feet away, the bowel movement suddenly starts with no warning. If I accelerate my pace it all begins to come out, no way to hold it. The first thing I do with an urge is TO SIT DOWN AND LET IT PASS. 99% of the time it does pass, 5 minutes later with no urge I calmly walk to the bathroom and do the deed.
The faster I am trying to get to the bathroom, the LESS CONTROL I HAVE. If it moves from the colon to the rectum while you are hurrying – GAME OVER.
The second point for accidents is when I am about to sit in the toilet: As I am on the way down the sphincter relaxes and this final 18 inches is when it all comes out, smearing all around the toilet. This is so preventable, all I need is wait 2 seconds but the movement starts on its own when the butt is relaxed in the way down. So now when I am about 5 feet from the toilet I stand, with heels together in a V formation, tighten up for 3 seconds, then I proceed to the toilet. Its the control you can exert at the colon more than the sphincter that is very effective. It works like a charm.
At work and in the car I have an extra pair of pants and diapers. The diapers I will need about once every 3 weeks. The pants about every 6 weeks. Some people suggest to carry a trash bag in the car, it can get very messy unless the trash bag is spread wide enough.
The other thing I do is have regular bowel movements after every meal, before the urges come. About half the time is the passing of massive amounts of gas.
What are your strategies in preventing accidents ?
Since I cannot absolutely afford to have accidents at work I do a preemptive strike of 1 Imodium in the morning, if the day is bad I take another Imodium. This slows it all down and the sense of urgency stops.
I had a job interview about 4 months back, had lunch and was on my way to the bathroom, everything normal. All of a sudden this massive urge comes and I was only 15 feet from the bathroom. I stopped, squeezed my butt and stood there for 15 seconds. I resumed the walking and it all started coming out on its own. I crapped my diapers, my dress pants it was a massive surprise. No warning. Luckily there was a mall nearby and went into Macys. They tell me that the mens Macys is at the OTHER END OF THE MALL. I had to walk through the entire mall with crap stains in the backside. Tried not to think about how it will look like.
I picked black dress pants and took it to the clerk, he starts cross-selling me on Macys cards, on special he has, I lost it: I told him that I needed to change my pants right away that this is an emergency and please ring my sale, he looked flustered.
The interview went well and I got the job 3 months ago. I have only had two accidents at work even though I am very vigilant when I need to do preemptive strikes to the bathroom.
Wanted to get your strategies in preventing accidents.
First and foremost for me: when I have a strong urge I resist going to the bathroom right there and then. The problem is that once I started walking to the bathroom 15 feet away, the bowel movement suddenly starts with no warning. If I accelerate my pace it all begins to come out, no way to hold it. The first thing I do with an urge is TO SIT DOWN AND LET IT PASS. 99% of the time it does pass, 5 minutes later with no urge I calmly walk to the bathroom and do the deed.
The faster I am trying to get to the bathroom, the LESS CONTROL I HAVE. If it moves from the colon to the rectum while you are hurrying – GAME OVER.
The second point for accidents is when I am about to sit in the toilet: As I am on the way down the sphincter relaxes and this final 18 inches is when it all comes out, smearing all around the toilet. This is so preventable, all I need is wait 2 seconds but the movement starts on its own when the butt is relaxed in the way down. So now when I am about 5 feet from the toilet I stand, with heels together in a V formation, tighten up for 3 seconds, then I proceed to the toilet. Its the control you can exert at the colon more than the sphincter that is very effective. It works like a charm.
At work and in the car I have an extra pair of pants and diapers. The diapers I will need about once every 3 weeks. The pants about every 6 weeks. Some people suggest to carry a trash bag in the car, it can get very messy unless the trash bag is spread wide enough.
The other thing I do is have regular bowel movements after every meal, before the urges come. About half the time is the passing of massive amounts of gas.
What are your strategies in preventing accidents ?