So I have a problem comming up. Well.. I gues its not really a problem.. I just make it to be one. (As I am sure we all do)
I have a friends bachelorette party comming up. As part of it we will be going to a cabin/house place to spend a night where there will be a sauna and a hot tub. Now the group I am going wiht is about 20 girls of who I know 3 of them. Just being in a group of people like that makes me feel stressed and small. I dont have a career or education because of my history with being sick al the time and I dread social situations where atleas for us a normal topic of small talk is your job. I dont have one. Also ½ the other girls are doctors. To be honest not sure if that makes it easier or worse.. but yeah... freaking out (again).
Now as you may have guesed the main problm is the sauna/hot tub. I was in a similar situation last summer at a different friends bachelorette party and chickened out and did not sauna with the rest of the girls. But what makes this different is we are payng (a lot) to use these facilities. And its silly to be paying for something and not make the best of it. Plus I am sure the hot tub (its actually a wood heated basin of water) would be fun.
So .. the problem. In our Finnish culture the sauna is a place you go nude. Be it public or private sauna (not usually mixed.. men and woman go seperate). So .. do I go.. do I not go... As till now I have only gone to sauna with family (my mom, my aunt and so on) and once in a group of people with crohns or family member with crohns. If I go to a public pool I skip the sauna and change in the bathrooms. I hate these type of situations... it was bad enough with just scars.. but with the bag now too. Wearing a swimsuit would be werd too...
I gues I just need help to bring up my courage to be me as I am. I wach all these young girls on you tube doing brave ostomy awarenes videos but I am not that brave. I can be me with my friends and usually thats good wnough.. but I would like to not feel les of myself in these type of situations too.
I have a friends bachelorette party comming up. As part of it we will be going to a cabin/house place to spend a night where there will be a sauna and a hot tub. Now the group I am going wiht is about 20 girls of who I know 3 of them. Just being in a group of people like that makes me feel stressed and small. I dont have a career or education because of my history with being sick al the time and I dread social situations where atleas for us a normal topic of small talk is your job. I dont have one. Also ½ the other girls are doctors. To be honest not sure if that makes it easier or worse.. but yeah... freaking out (again).
Now as you may have guesed the main problm is the sauna/hot tub. I was in a similar situation last summer at a different friends bachelorette party and chickened out and did not sauna with the rest of the girls. But what makes this different is we are payng (a lot) to use these facilities. And its silly to be paying for something and not make the best of it. Plus I am sure the hot tub (its actually a wood heated basin of water) would be fun.
So .. the problem. In our Finnish culture the sauna is a place you go nude. Be it public or private sauna (not usually mixed.. men and woman go seperate). So .. do I go.. do I not go... As till now I have only gone to sauna with family (my mom, my aunt and so on) and once in a group of people with crohns or family member with crohns. If I go to a public pool I skip the sauna and change in the bathrooms. I hate these type of situations... it was bad enough with just scars.. but with the bag now too. Wearing a swimsuit would be werd too...
I gues I just need help to bring up my courage to be me as I am. I wach all these young girls on you tube doing brave ostomy awarenes videos but I am not that brave. I can be me with my friends and usually thats good wnough.. but I would like to not feel les of myself in these type of situations too.