Thank you to everyone who has had the courage to share their story...
I've been with my Boyfriend for 3.5 years, he is living with Crohn's. Our relationship has been very rocky. I now feel that it's had a lot to do with the fact that he's always quick to get mad and bail if we have an argument, I'd get frustrated if he didn't want to be intimate, or feeling like "my stomach hurts" was always an excuse. Bailing, and being frustrated always seemed to be his outlet. It wasn't until recently that he started being more open about his Crohn's. I've always known this is something he's lived with. But, because he wasn't comfortable with it he's never had the patience to make me understand. Instead he reacts to his symtoms, and it created an issue with us.
Today I was frustrated with everything and my intentions were to tell him I'm done. In doing this I spilled everything about being upset, and in return he did the same. For the first time in 3.5 years he was honest with me about his desires to be happy and live a normal life with me. But, Crohn's was putting a stop to that. Knowing that was such a relief. After he went to work(he's a cop on night shift, definitely does not help his symptoms any) I decided to take it upon myself to type "being in a relationship with someone who has Crohn's". WOW, WOW, WOW.... That decision was life changing. I've seen so many posts of people saying the same things my Boyfriend has always said the "I was scared to tell my Wife anything negative because it would send her into a flair up". Something that I always thought was an excuse to get out of a negative conversation. Or seeing the fear people have of being intimate because they were scared they'd have an accident.
I've always wanted to be there for him prior to today, that's why I'm still here after all of this time. But, now more than ever I want to be the one to open his eyes and seeing he isn't the only one and yes it sucks. But, it sucks a lot less with someone who loves you and wants to help you. He's currently on Remicade, which is not working. Because he's seeing no result he's very discouraged. I'm happy that I can do my own research on diet change, and pamper him with these foods that may help. I understand that I can't cure this for him, and that maybe there is nothing I can do. But, the best thing I feel I can offer him now that I'm aware is understanding, and someone to just be there and not give him a hard time about it.
I feel like I can exhale, today is life changing. I believe today is the first day of the rest of our life.
I wish everyone much happiness, and good health... THANK YOU!
I've been with my Boyfriend for 3.5 years, he is living with Crohn's. Our relationship has been very rocky. I now feel that it's had a lot to do with the fact that he's always quick to get mad and bail if we have an argument, I'd get frustrated if he didn't want to be intimate, or feeling like "my stomach hurts" was always an excuse. Bailing, and being frustrated always seemed to be his outlet. It wasn't until recently that he started being more open about his Crohn's. I've always known this is something he's lived with. But, because he wasn't comfortable with it he's never had the patience to make me understand. Instead he reacts to his symtoms, and it created an issue with us.
Today I was frustrated with everything and my intentions were to tell him I'm done. In doing this I spilled everything about being upset, and in return he did the same. For the first time in 3.5 years he was honest with me about his desires to be happy and live a normal life with me. But, Crohn's was putting a stop to that. Knowing that was such a relief. After he went to work(he's a cop on night shift, definitely does not help his symptoms any) I decided to take it upon myself to type "being in a relationship with someone who has Crohn's". WOW, WOW, WOW.... That decision was life changing. I've seen so many posts of people saying the same things my Boyfriend has always said the "I was scared to tell my Wife anything negative because it would send her into a flair up". Something that I always thought was an excuse to get out of a negative conversation. Or seeing the fear people have of being intimate because they were scared they'd have an accident.
I've always wanted to be there for him prior to today, that's why I'm still here after all of this time. But, now more than ever I want to be the one to open his eyes and seeing he isn't the only one and yes it sucks. But, it sucks a lot less with someone who loves you and wants to help you. He's currently on Remicade, which is not working. Because he's seeing no result he's very discouraged. I'm happy that I can do my own research on diet change, and pamper him with these foods that may help. I understand that I can't cure this for him, and that maybe there is nothing I can do. But, the best thing I feel I can offer him now that I'm aware is understanding, and someone to just be there and not give him a hard time about it.
I feel like I can exhale, today is life changing. I believe today is the first day of the rest of our life.
I wish everyone much happiness, and good health... THANK YOU!
