So since my diagnosis back in May, I've noticed a drop of in the amount of "friends" I have. It bothers me on one hand, but on the other, its kind of like a "relief". I mean I have 2 friends right now who I wouldn't trade for the world and have stuck by my side through thick and thin. They understand my limitations and support me fully in good and bad times. The major downfall to that is that they both live out of state (one lives in Illinois and one lives in Colorado and I'm in Virginia)....so I get depressed about that a lot.
My friends here in Virginia....all the want to do is club and party and live a LIFESTYLE that is not Crohn's-Friendly, if that makes sense. When I try to offer to do things that are within my limitations like antique shopping or going to see a play or something I get nothing but dead silence....or my text go unanswered. Then when they ask me to do something and I say I'm not up to it, everything is taken so personally. Like its amazing how people think you're "faking" it all the time. They don't understand that life I used to live...is not worth it right now. Sure I can go out and party it up but I'm guaranteed to spend the next.....2-3 DAYS in pure pain, fatigued, stomach cramps and pain, diarrhea...etc. While life just goes on for them.
I'm considering starting a meetup.com group for Friends with Limits or something. I really do feel its time to start trying to branch out and find people who can symphatize with me and encourage me when needed...outside of just having a "web based" support group (which don't get me wrong you guys are great!) :thumleft:
My friends here in Virginia....all the want to do is club and party and live a LIFESTYLE that is not Crohn's-Friendly, if that makes sense. When I try to offer to do things that are within my limitations like antique shopping or going to see a play or something I get nothing but dead silence....or my text go unanswered. Then when they ask me to do something and I say I'm not up to it, everything is taken so personally. Like its amazing how people think you're "faking" it all the time. They don't understand that life I used to live...is not worth it right now. Sure I can go out and party it up but I'm guaranteed to spend the next.....2-3 DAYS in pure pain, fatigued, stomach cramps and pain, diarrhea...etc. While life just goes on for them.
I'm considering starting a meetup.com group for Friends with Limits or something. I really do feel its time to start trying to branch out and find people who can symphatize with me and encourage me when needed...outside of just having a "web based" support group (which don't get me wrong you guys are great!) :thumleft: