I have had it with overweight people saying being trim/in shape "is easy" for people who are already trim.
I bite back my words, when what I really want to do is tell them that I would do anything to beat my disease, and that I have no sympathy for people who simply lack discipline.
Now I know what many people are going to say or think here. That I'm lacking empathy for the situation of the chunky person. But that is NOT the case! I know that we all treat food differently, and so do our bodies. I have friends with different hurdles to slender-hood; thyroid problems, joint troubles, no history of activity, lack of nutritional info and let's face it - some people are just so much hungrier. Don't get me started on emotional eaters. Other examples - my brother has never met a meal he didn't like more than most people!
My point is that I would never comment on someone else's weight. It is rude and wildly inappropriate. Why do people who struggle with managing their weight feel it is acceptable to comment on those of us who look like we have the system down pat? The fact is, they have no idea the kind of work many of us do to took great, especially while managing a disease.
I work my butt off to put things in my body that are good for it, keep my energy up so that I can be fit and manage day-to-day tasks, and if something is making me sick, I stop eating it. No matter how delicious it tastes. I see people all the time who make themselves sick drinking coffee - but they would never quit, even when the damage they are doing to their intestines is highlighted.
My questions for everyone else are these:
What do you say when people who are totally out to lunch comment on your weight?
Does this infuriate anyone else?
Why is it wrong to fat-shame, when overweight people think they can comment any way they like to a slender person, and it's okay because the fit person has it easy?
Do you ever lose it and actually tell the other person what you deal with on a daily basis?
(e.g. - oh yes, thanks! My workout regimen is diarrhea 7-10 times a night, almost no sleep, 3-5 types of food in total for my diet, no food sometimes just to decrease all the abdominal swelling, vitamin shots, headaches, arthritis, and general excruciating pain. Then sometimes I have good weeks where I can use my energy for things like a hike or swim! Try it. It'll work for you, too! )
I bite back my words, when what I really want to do is tell them that I would do anything to beat my disease, and that I have no sympathy for people who simply lack discipline.
Now I know what many people are going to say or think here. That I'm lacking empathy for the situation of the chunky person. But that is NOT the case! I know that we all treat food differently, and so do our bodies. I have friends with different hurdles to slender-hood; thyroid problems, joint troubles, no history of activity, lack of nutritional info and let's face it - some people are just so much hungrier. Don't get me started on emotional eaters. Other examples - my brother has never met a meal he didn't like more than most people!
My point is that I would never comment on someone else's weight. It is rude and wildly inappropriate. Why do people who struggle with managing their weight feel it is acceptable to comment on those of us who look like we have the system down pat? The fact is, they have no idea the kind of work many of us do to took great, especially while managing a disease.
I work my butt off to put things in my body that are good for it, keep my energy up so that I can be fit and manage day-to-day tasks, and if something is making me sick, I stop eating it. No matter how delicious it tastes. I see people all the time who make themselves sick drinking coffee - but they would never quit, even when the damage they are doing to their intestines is highlighted.
My questions for everyone else are these:
What do you say when people who are totally out to lunch comment on your weight?
Does this infuriate anyone else?
Why is it wrong to fat-shame, when overweight people think they can comment any way they like to a slender person, and it's okay because the fit person has it easy?
Do you ever lose it and actually tell the other person what you deal with on a daily basis?
(e.g. - oh yes, thanks! My workout regimen is diarrhea 7-10 times a night, almost no sleep, 3-5 types of food in total for my diet, no food sometimes just to decrease all the abdominal swelling, vitamin shots, headaches, arthritis, and general excruciating pain. Then sometimes I have good weeks where I can use my energy for things like a hike or swim! Try it. It'll work for you, too! )