I have a dilemma... long story short, parents divorced when I was a kid and I lived with my 2 older sisters and my mom. My dad was minimally involved with us. My father is also an alcoholic. He doesn't get mean when he drinks his 12 or more beers a day...just silly bordering on embarassing. We didn't speak for a couple of years because I made it clear to him that I didn't agree with him drinking all day and then picking up my little sisters for the weekend. OK, now my father is a truck driver with no home of his own and he has been staying with me on the days that he rolls back in town. I have a husband and two young children. I don't ask him to pay anything and he sleeps on the couch. Well, the first time he was home he ended up staying at my house for over three weeks waiting to meet up with his trainer. He was looking at porn sites on my computer while we were away at work....GROSSS. Not at your childs home! This time he has invited my 9 year old little sister to stay at my house while he is home (didn't ask my husband and I if we could squeeze another person into our home for the whole time he is here) he just assumed it is ok because she is my sister. He doesn't cook for her so I end up doing it. They are there in the house all day while we are at work and the kids are at childcare and I came home to a large mess the other day. My dad is 50!!! You think that he could be respectful enough to clean up after hisself. Yesterday I found out that he allowed my two younger sisters (I have a 17yr old sis too) to go into my bedroom (which was closed) and mess around with the Playstation 2 without asking. Is it just me or am I asking too much for him to not assume that just because he stays there he doesn't get free reign of the place? He should be trying to minimalize the effects on my young family. I have enough stress without him making more. If I kindly ask him to start looking for another alternative I fear that he will rebel and try to guilt me because he really has no one else to turn to. Also, I have had to say something to him about using cuss words while in the same area as my young children. I shouldn't have to do that.
OK, enough rambling on. I just had to vent that. Thanks for listening!! :ymad: