I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, it can be so devastating, I lost my first pregnancy at 9 weeks, I had just been married 11 weeks and in a bad flare at the time, wasn't planning a pregnancy because I was so sick but we were thrilled, my health suffered really bad and I clung to existence for a further 6 weeks just to get my sister's wedding out of the way. Boy was wrong!!! I ended up in hospital for 2 weeks very ill and the GI's gave me all the lectures you could imagine. "Don't get pregnant while in a flare, don't come off meds while pregnant" I couldn't even think about having another baby at that stage as I was so heartbroken, I cried the day that baby was due and have done every year since.
I did get my flare under control with pred and Pentasa and was ready to try again a year later, I stayed on pentasa throughout and had to take pred at 30 weeks to stop a flare developing after the baby dropped into position, My first was born 3 weeks early but very healthy, I had another miscarriage a year later while in full remission at 6 weeks, again heartbroken but more encouraged that time around. I tried 2 months later and pregnant again, my second daughter is now 17 months.
I would recommend being on meds as they put it to me, better to give yourself and baby a fighting chance than losing possibly both of us. Try to find something that works for you, pentasa is like asacol and very mild.
Your son is in my prayers, no one should have to suffer this horrible condition let alone a child, but he has a great mum to rely on.
Take care of yourself, get rest, I'm sending you a big hug.
Gwen, her two daughters and her two angel babies. xxx