As long as I don't stop

[Stuffette]

So my husband was joking this weekend and said the title of my book should be "As long as I Don't Stop".

I have been really busy, went away to California last weekend for a destination wedding and worked extra hours to make up for the time away. Sunday was my first day with nothing to do in over two weeks. I went to church in the morning and then out to lunch with my husband and daughter. Well, luckily we took seperate cars because I had to run home half way through lunch. I spent the rest of my Sunday and Monday (my two days off) in the bathroom and in bed. It's like my body knew it was my day off and used that time to be sick. My hips were hurting me on Sunday morning so I should have known what I was in for!

I had to be back at work on Tuesday and felt just great by 6 PM on Monday night. I guess I am blessed that I get sick on my days off but the routine sure gets old. I try to take it easy during the week so I don't get sick by Sunday. I try to do as little as possible so this doesn't keep happening. (You should see what a mess my house is.)

People yell at me and tell me I need to take it easy. I am not sure what I should cut out. I basically go to work and try to keep up with a 2 year old. I have cut most things out. I even gave a ticket away for a concert last week. I knew that I would be pushing things if I went so I gave it away to someone last minute. I STILL got sick. I guess I could have been worse if I did go.

Sorry about the rant but I guess I need to vent. I hate complaining to my husband. He tells me to take it easy but then doesn't make up for the areas where I am slacking. Then he yells at me that I overdid it. Vicious cycle!

 

[Kev]

Hi Stuffette. Great to see you back on here. As for venting or ranting, don't mention it. That's what this place is meant for (well, perhaps not exclusively). As for a hubby suggesting (OK, maybe yelling) at you to take it easy, yet not picking up the slack, if I might make an observation. Men and women typically have totally different levels of toleration when it comes to housework. I was chief cook and bottle washer in a solo parent situation. I cleaned my 2 story, 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom, extremely oversized living room, dining room, family room mausoleum on my own. I set aside Sunday for it. If something came up, then it was postponed till next Sunday. Me and my boys didn't have a problem with it. some of my lady friends WEREN'T so forgiving. But, as far as I was concerned, I was doing the best I could, and those who took issue were perfectly welcome to pitch in or shut up. If hubby tells you to take it easy, then has a problem with some undone household chore, may I suggest you make him the above proposition. if, on the other hand, you feel more needs to be done, then either get some professional assistance, or the next time hubby yells to stop you from doing too much, hand it off to him and tell him to put up OR shut... welll, you get the picture. just my two cents worth...

 

[Stuffette]

Thanks Kev. You are telling me things I already know but it is nice to have someone remind me once in a while.

 

[Kev]

Hey Stuffette. No problem. Hope I didn't sound preachy. Sometimes I wind up atop my soapbox w/o the faintest recollection of how I got there. And the flip side is that at times I get a little sensitive, perhaps even defensive, about how much less "I" am capable of doing these days as opposed to before my disease changed me forever. I think maybe I read a little of that feeling in your rant. And I wanted to come to your defense, and by proxy, my own. Does any of that make any sense? I hope it does...

 

[tonya_n_ky]

Hi Stuffette-

I do the same thing. If I stay busy, It seems I feel a little better than if I take a day and be lazy (or relax). Not sure why but it's true. I sometimes think that I just stay overly busy and somehow my mind knows that at that time I need to "GO" and when I "shut down" everything knows it can "act up". We can't stay busy ALL the time though. :ybatty: Maybe find a balance to do a little of both in a day? I am working on doing that myself. Hope you're feeling better. Hugzz!

 

[Sojourn]

Sometimes I'm worse on my days off also because I tend to eat more when I'm not busy.