As long as you have someone by your side...

[Sea_Star]

life can throw daggers at you and you'd still be ok, right? I hope so....the comfort of having a relationship must be the best medicine in the world. No matter what life (or the meds) may bring me, I wish I could one day experience what it's like to have that support, not from family or your parents, but of a best friend of the opposite sex! I have never dated or had a bf or any of those experiences, even before being diagnosed 4 years ago at 21, but now that I'm blossoming (lol later bloomer :rosette1, I WISH I could start doing those things and I want to...but i always feel like I'm cheating them into thinking I'm 100% disease-free. Who wants to date a chick who has to take 13 pills a day?! When I could've dated when I was med-free a year ago -_- And then, if I needed to start meds again, I would've had someone by my side or at least know what it feels like...

I live in my head. A LOT. lol Should I wait til I'm TOTALLY in remission?? I mean, i don't drink as it is...wouldn't they think that's weird?! What guy wants a girl who doesn't drink?!haha ok, slightly kidding on that end.....

 

[Kev]

You know... I didn't date for quite some time. Wanted to be sure my remission stuck and not saddle someone with my condition. Makes perfect sense, right? Sounds noble.

But, it was stupid of me. Big time. I thought that by waiting those years, I could be sure that if I got in a relationship, I wouldn't be short changing anyone. That I was 'cured'.

Here's the thing... even if neither of us had never become sick, never been diagnosed, we'd still have no control over tomorrow than the next person. You and I 'know' what we have to deal with... and, we can either give in and face it solo... all alone.. or try finding that certain someone. Won't be easy. It isn't for healthy people. But, good things seldom come easy. And the thing is... if 'we' find that someone, they don't come with any factory guarantees. They could catch something a day after we meet, or a month, or a decade... Regardless of who we are, what we have, we all have this in common. Each and every one of us is going to die. Don't know when. Don't matter. What matters really is how much time we spend living... versus time wasted worrying about living rather than living. You see?

 

[shamrock15]

I think it is actually a little better for them to see us when we are sick. People seem to throw relationships away pretty easily now, so why leave that to chance? I made a point of having my wife see me when I was sick first. It is pretty hard to explain to someone how bad this disease can look. If they accept you when you are sick, the good times should be easy. The reverse doesn't hold true to quite the same extent.