Hi Mel & hubby (by proxy).. you titled your intro with the term 'Confused', and I don't want to add to your confusion... also bear in mind that none of us here are medically trained... just novices like yourself with varying degrees of personal experience.. And everybody's story & case is different.. Having said all of that, many of your hubby's experiences/symptoms mirror my own.. I too had (and to some degree still suffer) excruciating pain after eating anything.. At the worst, even drinking water hurt like hell.. (that eventually put me in the hospital). I lost close to 80 lbs.. photos of me at my worst look like a skeleton with skin stretched over it.. however, my case was extremely complex at the time. I had pancreatitis, and two very large pancreatitic cysts. doctors thought that they were the cause of the pain I got from eating... and that I had gallstones (however, none showed up in any diagnositic imaging.. X-rays, sonograms, CT scans). Their theory? that my stones were microscopic.. so they took out my gallbladder. (after the cysts had reduced themselves to allow for the surgery - that came about thru time and diet).
The result? they said i was cured.. and the pain had subsided.. but didn't vanish. I would describe that pain as feeling like I was trying to swallow broken glass. Does that resemble the pain your hubby feels? Anyway, prior to the g/b removal, a GI had tentatively dx'd me with very mild colitis.. and put me on anti-biotics.. metro-nidazole (sp?).. My pain immediately increased.. Dr's thought it was due to the a/b.. which they took me off of.. Then my bowel symptoms increased almost on a day to day basis.. Back to the g/b surgeon.. he seemed to think it wasn't due to his surgery.. then off to the G/I surgeon.. he scoped me again, and told me that I needed an emergency resection.. seems the mild colitis had flared totally beyond treatment.. so out came 1 1/2 ft of colon.. He told me at the time that it was type of colitis called Diverticular associated colitis, and removal of the colon would cure me forever.. that lasted about 6 - 7 weeks.. then all of the symptoms came back with vengence. I'd seen other G/I surgeons, and consulted another GI specialist to see if they could explain my pancreatic symptoms resurfacing post surgery. The upshot? Another scope revealed that my colon was totally involved again, just few weeks after surgery... and that it was either ulcerative colitis or crohns disease. It is relatively immaterial at this point... unless we get to the stage where the rest of my colon comes out.. however, if crohns, and involvement of the pancreas and liver, that would explain the pancreatic symptoms.. the painful eating? It never has been explained to anyones satisfaction.. but it has diminished to a tolerable level.. Like, I eat to take my meds, and I typically experience moderate discomfort approx 45 - 90 minutes post... Where am I going with all of this rambling/venting?
I dunno your location... what your health coverage and diagnostic options are, OK
Here in Canada, I was seen by the best (reportedly), and they weren't able to get to the bottom.... I may have paid a price physically, but it didn't ruin me financially.
If you have the luxury of pursuing this, then you might want to get 2nd opinions.
Like, what are your hubby's enzyme levels like? Is his pancreas functioning right?
Theres' a nasty/messy/ humilating (at least for me) test they can do on the levels of material in the stool.. Means collecting all of the stool output. not nice process.
Has he had CT or MRI? Has he seen GI? An endrocronologist? An IBS nutritionist?
Guess what I'm trying to say is that IBS or IBD related illness can be extremely difficult to diagnose, diagnosis by even the 'best' docs can be wrong, so you may not get the right answer if you pursue this... but having been in shoes that sound similar to your hubby's, I'm so glad that I live in Canada and was able to pursue it and make the progress that I have w/o betting the farm/losing my home, etc, etc..
I pray that you have the option, and that you find an answer that will turn things around for your hubby. constant pain, losing ground, been there/done that, its' not a place in my life that i'd care to revisit. let us know how you guys make out..
PS welcome to the forum.. hope others input is more beneficial/optimistic than mine