Crohn and my sad story

[mightybear]

first of all im not native english speaker
so sorry first for your inconvinience
second this include uncomfortable story including crohn and alcoholism and child abuse (but not sexually)
i feel tight and victiminized and no where to share my story except this online forum
and want to pick yours brain

i born in socially mid upper class home
so everybody think i grew in greenhouse
but i think it is not
because my father have alcoholism
every night i awake due to drunken father
yaled at my mother, sister, and me
i believe my crohn is due to severe stress
and all member of my family have health problem except father
there are many accident related to my father if i list all them here im sure you feel tired
i personally cannot forgive him because when i got full scholarship even though i have crohn, he spent exactly spent same amount of family's money for gold diggers
i cannot count how many gold digger he had using two hands


i have to get a job even though crohn
and even though father
company dosent like sick person and i cannot hide my disease
my mother nearly is having kidney failure
all of theae harsh i think..
i cannot even say these things to other people.

am i just kevetch?
how can you solve this situation?

 

[Trysha]

Sorry to hear of your great suffering and that of your family
Is it possible for you to move away and find a place of your own to live in peace....if so this may help to relieve some of the stress you are facing daily.,and perhaps improve your health a little.
Are you receiving medical help from doctors for your crohns?
If not you really should be treated and regularly monitored by a GI specialist.
Your first step would be to talk to your doctor about the parental abuse from your father
and seek more help for dealing with your illness as well....such as a gastroenterologist.
Feel better soon...
Hugs
Trysha

 

[ronroush7]

Welcome. I am sorry for all you have been through. I agree with all Trysha said.

 

[mightybear]

Sorry to hear of your great suffering and that of your family
Is it possible for you to move away and find a place of your own to live in peace....if so this may help to relieve some of the stress you are facing daily.,and perhaps improve your health a little.
Are you receiving medical help from doctors for your crohns?
If not you really should be treated and regularly monitored by a GI specialist.
Your first step would be to talk to your doctor about the parental abuse from your father
and seek more help for dealing with your illness as well....such as a gastroenterologist.
Feel better soon...
Hugs
Trysha

thanks trysha

im definately trying to move away from him

all of 20 years old male have to go to military in my country but i didnt due to crohn
and company can know i didnt go milary for some reasons so im not attractive for them

thankfully my country pay 90% fee for crohns and mother bought insurance for me before getting crohn no economic birden
but my father is economic burden and source of stress and making crohn worse

bit weird situation..

 

[ronroush7]

Glad your country is helping .

 

[Trysha]

Mightybear.....I would still feel it worth talking to your doctor if you can but I can understand your fear of it getting back to your father in the wrong way.
You are in a difficult situation which can be almost impossible to resolve on your own .
Sometimes there is no solution except to move away but understandably you may not wish to leave your mother without support....especially if she also is ill.
Perhaps someone else on the forum might have suggestions to offer.
Incidentally you are free to say whatever you like on the forum...don't worry about little things such as language or spelling these incidentals are not important but your message is...and we all care about fellow crohns sufferers.
Feel better

 

[cmack]

Hi mightybear,

It's OK, it isn't your fault your dad is like that. I hope you can tell your doctor about all the trouble you are having with him and find a solution. You can come here to talk any time, sometimes talking to others helps you to feel better. I'm so sorry to hear of all this hardship you are facing. You can count on me as a friend who cares.


Yours truly,

Chris