Damn

[kenny]

damn

Well things started moving fast for me. My surgeon said he was going to get me in for a resection sooner than a general booking would allow. When He sees a light day in the Operating room ahead of time he will call me to do a bowel prep the day before and then I sit on call at home to see if he can clear me a spot. This is to get me in about 6 weeks sooner as I still have this perc drain in my abscess and it is constantly being fed by a perforation in my illieum. I am hoping to be in the OR Thursday

So my Dad gets pretty concerned about stuff and decides he needs to fly up here from his home in the Caribbean. He was due to land this Wednesday. His wife found him beside the pool at his home where he had died from a massive heartatack Saturday afternoon.

I feel so friggin ****** that my pain has caused so many other people pain. We did not get to see each other much these past 30 years so every time we do its a big deal. But I also know that he loved me so so much and that I have been lucky to have him as my dad. His wife told me that it was his time and not my fault and I do believe her. He was the kind of guy living for every minute and pushed himself very hard. But still. I think you guys know what I mean. This **** puts stress on our loved ones too

 

[beth]

As you say, damn.

 

[imisspopcorn]

OH Kenny I am so sorry for your loss. Take comfort in the knowledge that he does love you and he was going to be there for you.
I pray you will have a successful surgery with best possible outcome.

Let us know how things go for you once you are feeling better.

 

[shazamataz]

Kenny,

So VERY sorry to hear about your Dad

(((((((HUGS))))))

 

[Cookie]

Aww Kenny, so sorry for your loss. Best of luck on your surgery...keep us posted.

 

[Jerman]

so very sorry for your loss Kenny. Do your best to lean on friends and family right now, don't internalize your grief or pain. Sending strong and healing thoughts your way. Make your dad proud by bouncing back quick and strong.

 

[NatalieMT]

Kenny, so sorry to hear of your loss, you are in my thoughts. Best of luck for your surgery, hope it goes smoothly for you.

 

[MD24]

sorry for your loss Kenny
good luck with the surgery

 

[violetcreams]

So sorry to hear this Kenny. My Mum died last February & I was in the middle of a huge flare at the time. Sometimes life throws it all at us doesn't it...

Wishing you all the best for your surgery & better times ahead.

 

[bethyd78]

That is really terrible news sorry to hear this. But good luck in your upcoming surgery. I will keep you in my prayers. This is a terrible loss for you. Try to keep your chin up tho b/c I heard positive outlook is really key in a good recovery.
Bethy

 

[chelli]

And all you say is damn. I think you are entitled to a few F-Bombs.

So sorry for your loss. I'll pray for your recovery and health.

 

[kenny]

The first thought I had Saturday night when I got the call was OMFG what have I done! I had talked to him Friday and discussed the updates to my status with him. He was really concerned and felt he needed to be here. I have had a few days to overcome the shock and now realize that issues far beyond my "bringing him down" where at play.

This whole thing has helped me to reassess how I am going to deal with my family and friends. I need to keep them informed of the ups and downs but I need to make sure I do it with with love. The biggest thing he did for me was tell me he loved me every time we talked and I think I can learn from that example.

the people around us need to know how much we appreciate their concern and all the help they give us in dealing with our disease. Those who love us NEED to hear that we love them back.

 

[D Bergy]

I am sorry to hear about your father's death. It is difficult, to say the least to lose a parent.

I hope your surgery goes well, they usually do.

Dan

 

[forum contributor]

Kenny,

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Sounded like a good guy

I hope your surgery goes well. We're all here for you!

 

[misscris]

Not much else to say that hasn't been already. But, I still wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss and also good luck with your surgery. He wanted to be with you during this hard time, and he is still with you and helping you along.

 

[atcig]

I am very sorry

 

[fenway1971]

Kenny,
My sincere condolonces for your loss. I wish you well in your surgery. Keep us updated.

 

[kenny]

surgery is Oct 1 at 6:00 am!

Feeling OK about my dad and everything should be good. The guy gave me all the tools and all the support anyone could ever ask for and I still have a great bunch of people looking out for me.

See you guys in a week or two.

One thing just occurred to me? with about a foot of ilium, foot of colon, the valve section and appendix out of the way; Does that mean I have more room for Turkey next month?

 

[imisspopcorn]

Good luck with surgery tomorrow. Don't worry about the turkey