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Well there's a way to have the day go by too quickly...I have spent so much time reading and learning...thanks to such an informative and warm forum.

My daughter was diagnosed through a colonoscopy w/ Crohn's as of 10/11. The summer of 2011 she had complained of a puffiness in her vaginal area, that when pressed lightly, fluid came out of her bum. We took her to a obgyn who diagnosed her with a bartholyn's cycst and she was treated with antibiotics. After three courses and no improvement, she called one night from her dorm in tears...mind you this is her first year away at college - luckily though it's only about 2.5 hour drive - and said that the puffiness in the vaginal area was quite painful and continued to drain so I told her to absolutely call the school obgyn. The doctor at school saw how the area was draining an immediately suggested she see a colo/rectal specialist....

...fast forward to the testing, colonoscopy, etc.. and we get the fistulizing Crohn's diagnosis. (what was diagnosed as a bartholyn's cyst was re-diagnosed as a rectovaginal fistula with the draining happening through the rectum). The first doctor we saw had little to no bedside manner and while my daughter sat there in tears with the diagnosis the dr. sort of coldly told us that we could start her on Pentasa and Entecort and to watch her diet. That was it.

In denial, my husband and I did not accept the diagnosis. Lyss truly has no symptoms of Crohn's. None. She eats extremely well, no weight loss issues, no cramping, very rarely has bouts of diarhea, never even gets sick...etc... so we made an appointment in Boston for a second opinion...she had two MRI's there, the slides from her colonoscopy were sent and once again - Crohn's is the diagnosis. The course of treatment? Remicade. Sort of in a blur I watched as they innoculated her and did a scratch test for TB... but as we were driving home I starting thinking - "how can we start her on Remicade when she has no other symptoms? Was that not too drastic, etc., etc." As you know, your mind just spins....

While at the hospital we also made an appointment to speak to a colorectal surgeon to take a look at the fistula - which she did - and she told us that it was extremely small - that she could place a seton...

So we decided to hold off on the remicade and start with the seton surgery. I will say the surgeon was wonderful. She was great with our daughter - very encouraging - and performed the surgery on February 6th.

What prompted my writing today was a call from Lyss from her dorm asking if she'll ever stop draining.... she was teary a bit (also having her period, so that may be a factor) and said she was still draining and would it stop, etc.. and I just felt so bad for her... I really do wish I could just take it all on and off of her...

Did we make a mistake not going with the one two approach of remicade and the seton placement? Does the seton stop draining?

She did start on the Pentasa - seems to be tolerating that well....

Could she just have a very mild case and eventually the seton will heal the fistula?

I appreciate this forum so much - and I do apologize for the long post...but my daughter's normally sunny disposition is nowhere to be found today...just want her to be happy and well.

Thanks so much!

Maria
 
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Hi Maria and :welcome:

The post is fine Maria. :) But I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. :hug: poor love. :( . I will leave your post here so you can be properly welcomed to the forum but also post your questions in the Fistula Forum, there's loads of info and fab advice there. :)

I don't think there are any mistakes with the decisions we make Mum, we do what do based on what we know at the time and what we think is best, that is never wrong. The main thing is to be open and honest, as you are, and be prepared to change your treatment options if that is what is needed. I can well understand, as every parent here can, the hesitation of going straight to the heavy guns. Sometimes the alternatives work out wonderfully well and sometimes they don't and what we once feared is then replaced by another. Remicade does have a very good track record at healing perianal Crohn's and I imagine that is where the docs were coming from. I don't have any experience with Seton's but others here do and they will be able to answer your questions.

Once your daughter's fistula heals she will be back to her normal happy self and more! Sometimes there have been subtle insidious differences there that we didn't notice and it isn't until they are in remission that we think, wow! I didn't realise we had lost that.

Good luck and welcome aboard!

Dusty. xxx
 
Hello Maria and welcome to the forum :bigwave: I agree with Dusty about checking out the fistula forum to get further info about drainage etc. I can understand the concern about the Remicade, perhaps also have a look at our treatment forum as there will be further info there based on peoples experiences here that may help.

I am sorry about your daughters diagnosis and do hope she can feel better soon :hug:
 
Thank you!

Thank you for the warm welcome! I will definitely check out the other threads - my goodness, there's so much information here..!

Thank you again. I look forward to reading and sharing.

Maria
 
Hi Maria and welcome.

Your poor daughter, I'm so sorry she's having to go through this :( And I can't imagine how hard it must be on an obviously very loving mother like yourself. But kudos to you for reaching out and educating yourself. My suggestion to become an expert in this disease. There's a lot of absolutely fantastic doctors out there who are going to do your daughter right. There's unfortunately a few bad ones as well and you're going to need to know when that is the case.

There's so much to learn. Diet, vitamins and minerals, treatment options, symptoms, extra intestinal manifestations, it just keeps going. Learn a little a day and you're going to be one heck of an advocate in no time. And of course, we're here for you 24/7.

I wish you and your family all the best.

*hugs*
 

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