Hi there, I am fortunate in that I haven't had any surgeries so far, so cannot offer you any advice on how to handle your husbands situation. I just wanted to say though that you sound like a very loving wife and that he is very lucky to have you! Sounds like you have your hands very full these days. Do your best to keep his spirits up, I'm sure he will come around once he is feeling better. All the best to you all!