I need advice!

[6pounds7ounces]

I hate feeling the way I do and I don't know if it's right or not, here's my story... My husband and I live in San Diego and we have a 2 year old, we just got married in January. I want to move to Dallas more than anything, I want to raise my daughter with values and I want to give her the world. San Diego isn't where I want her to be brought up. Well, my husband has been trying to get into law enforcement for 4 years but for some stupid reason or another he's been turned down. The day before he was supposed to fly to Dallas to test at McKinney (which was a very good thing, he had such a great shot at getting in) he got the call from the Border Patrol. They accepted him and he leaves Sept 22 for the academy which is in New Mexico for 5 months. They did station him in San Diego. Of course, he accepted and changed his Texas plane ticket to tickets for us to go to Vegas before he leaves. Well.......... Am I wrong for not wanting him to go? 1. He will be away from his wife and his 2 year old for 5 months, that's a long time! 2. He got stationed in San Diego, now I just feel stuck and I feel my daughter isn't going to get everything that she could have got if we were to move.3. I'm totally okay with him being a cop at a police department but something about the Border Patrol just scares me, It's so dangerous what is going on down there and now my husband is going to be in the middle of it all. My family...everybody keeps telling me I need to support him and I should be so lucky. I do, of course support him, I'm just SO NOT happy about it. Maybe I just need outsiders point of view....I don't know. I'm just lost. :confused2::sign0085:

 

[Entchen]

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry to hear about this difficult situation. I am close to someone who is married to an individual in police work, and she and I share a very firm belief: you can be a supportive spouse and still be an equal partner in the marriage by speaking up when you have concerns. It's fair to none of the three of you if you are forced into silence as the only way to be supportive. As well as being a career decision, it's a family decision, and you need to support yourself, your daughter, and your husband, not only your husband's career. It may be that staying in your current location for now is the right move for your family, or it might not be, but you won't have a chance to find out without an open conversation.
Hugs to you.

 

[DustyKat]

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. Please excuse my ignorance but why don't you want your daughter brought up San Diego and what does Dallas have to offer you? Not being from the US I'm probably missing something obvious.

Dusty.