My wife was diagnosed with UC at the age of 15, before we even met. When we were first married I was insensitive to the symptoms (I do regret those days). She was on pills to manage symptoms but always complained of painful bowel movements and fatigue. She's always been sensitive to drug treatments and has tried virtually all approved drugs to date. There were periods of remission in her early 20's but things steadily degraded, and got worse as we began having children. After the birth of our last, the drug choices were eventually exhausted and about 3 years ago we decided to move forward with surgical treatment.
The first major surgery was partial collectomy but there was many complications. Further signs of inflammation showed up almost instantly post op. Just about every complication that could happen, did happen including a strong addition to pain medicine and depression. Very rough time at our household, but I'm sure there are many others on this board with similar experiences or worse.
We decided earlier this year to have the remainder of large intestine removed earlier this year. Of course, this one didn't go perfectly smoothly either, and required several weeks of post op antibiotics via pic line at home because of infection and an abscess in pelvis. Once that was resolved and she weined off of pain medication (another unfortunate side effect of multiple surgery - pain med addiction) she's been a completely different person - in a good way. This is the woman I married. Happy, energetic (for crohns), and mostly healthy. Her last scope didn't show any active inflamation and she's currently not on any medicine for treatment. Her dr was realistic in saying that symptoms are likely to reappear at some time but to enjoy now. That is the short story of the 15 or so years I've known her, and the last 3 years of hell. Today is pretty good though, I can't remember a time when we were happier.
One question though, regarding employement. I should mention that she has worked for a small local government office for the last 15 years. They have been more than generous with allowances due to her condition. Paid and unpaid time off and even special accomodations post surgery. She did the whole 12 weeks FMLA thing, and then short term disability. Now that the dr's scope shows no active inflamation the short term ins people have denied further payment. I would never trade health for a paycheck, but I do believe that symptoms will come back, I just don't know when. We've filed for SSD and they are reviewing right now. Her employeer eventually let her go and filled the position this year so there is no job to go back to. What do we do financially now? Can we file for unemployement since she's in better health? I'm not sure how to avoid or disclose her condition with any potential employer. Will that affect the SSD determination? Can she just stay at home while the SSD does their thing and wait for an answer? If they deny because she's in better shape now can she reapply when/if symptoms reappear? So say in a year when/if more symptoms reappear we refile but they tell us she wasn't employed previous to the symptoms and deny claim again? On her best day life still isn't perfect, it was just that bad before so things seem really good now. Looking back, the job always took so much out of her that she would flop down when she got home due to exhaustion. I'd love for her to be able to spend what good time she has with the kids instead of sleeping (and all of the other related symptoms that come along with crohns).
The first major surgery was partial collectomy but there was many complications. Further signs of inflammation showed up almost instantly post op. Just about every complication that could happen, did happen including a strong addition to pain medicine and depression. Very rough time at our household, but I'm sure there are many others on this board with similar experiences or worse.
We decided earlier this year to have the remainder of large intestine removed earlier this year. Of course, this one didn't go perfectly smoothly either, and required several weeks of post op antibiotics via pic line at home because of infection and an abscess in pelvis. Once that was resolved and she weined off of pain medication (another unfortunate side effect of multiple surgery - pain med addiction) she's been a completely different person - in a good way. This is the woman I married. Happy, energetic (for crohns), and mostly healthy. Her last scope didn't show any active inflamation and she's currently not on any medicine for treatment. Her dr was realistic in saying that symptoms are likely to reappear at some time but to enjoy now. That is the short story of the 15 or so years I've known her, and the last 3 years of hell. Today is pretty good though, I can't remember a time when we were happier.
One question though, regarding employement. I should mention that she has worked for a small local government office for the last 15 years. They have been more than generous with allowances due to her condition. Paid and unpaid time off and even special accomodations post surgery. She did the whole 12 weeks FMLA thing, and then short term disability. Now that the dr's scope shows no active inflamation the short term ins people have denied further payment. I would never trade health for a paycheck, but I do believe that symptoms will come back, I just don't know when. We've filed for SSD and they are reviewing right now. Her employeer eventually let her go and filled the position this year so there is no job to go back to. What do we do financially now? Can we file for unemployement since she's in better health? I'm not sure how to avoid or disclose her condition with any potential employer. Will that affect the SSD determination? Can she just stay at home while the SSD does their thing and wait for an answer? If they deny because she's in better shape now can she reapply when/if symptoms reappear? So say in a year when/if more symptoms reappear we refile but they tell us she wasn't employed previous to the symptoms and deny claim again? On her best day life still isn't perfect, it was just that bad before so things seem really good now. Looking back, the job always took so much out of her that she would flop down when she got home due to exhaustion. I'd love for her to be able to spend what good time she has with the kids instead of sleeping (and all of the other related symptoms that come along with crohns).