Relationships

[tlc-x]

Okay, so i'm 16, not that much experience with boyfriends. Had one proper one. And barely any friends.


How do you all deal with relationships with partners, friends and family?


Me:

My parents were arguing over dinner, so we had dominoes pizza in the end. Because they were in bad moods, I just agreed to eat it knowing full well that onion and garlic is in the sauce. I'm intolerant to onion and garlic, so bring on a big flare up.

I'm currently arguing with my "best friend" because he's moaning about how I don't want to see him and no matter how many times, i'm too ill to see him!!

I've lost pretty much all my friends. Talk to about three friends every few days. Two guys from college, and a guy I used to know. I only see the college friends when I go to college, and the guy I used to know, I don't see him anymore.

My sister is there for me, but doesn't always know what to do or say. My brother just tells me to get over it, ignore it and keep fit and healthy and it'll magically go away - he's obviously one of those people who never gets ill. He even eats under cooked bacon and doesn't get ill. Takes the piss!
My dad just ignores everything - he just gets on with keeping the roof over our heads. Mum is my verbal punch bag, and takes me to all my appointments. We're closer now that i'm ill, just she gets fed up of me because i'm always there.. she needs space, but can't get it.

I did have a boyfriend, but it ended because he was slagging me off behind my back, flirting with other girls and lying to me. There is a possible chance that he cheated too.

Not had a boyfriend since last summer but it's not on the top of the list of wants at the moment. Getting diagnosed and getting better is.

 

[Lorimichelle85]

My opinion is you should be honest with your friends and family about your disease. You are so young and I know that sounds hard and embarrasing but later down the road when you are living with someone or at lunch with your frinds running to the bathroom etc. You will be happier that you already explained it. If anyone ever thinks your symptoms are gross or weird then they are not a great candidate as being in your life. You will figure this all out and maybe your best focus should be to get better and have FRIENDS and not necessarly a boyfriend. I know with your age it sounds hard but I def. know you will find someone who will understand everything and not to worry about it because there are those types out there. Good luck sweety and relationships will be much easier with the truth and being open about yourself.

 

[StarGirrrrl]

Hi Tash, could you not have got yourself something else for dinner, something safe? Sometimes you have to put yourself and your health first, despite who will get upset and causing a bad atmosphere at home.

For your best friend, have you sat him down and explained, in graphic detail where needed, what is going on with you?

You mention your friends, well those that you have are the ones worth having, not those that have left. You talk to them and see them which is good. Quality not quantity!

Your sister sounds fab and your brother sounds like a typical brother lol, just ignore him, you know you are the smarter one with regards to knowing his "advice" won't happen.

With regards to your Mum, is she not able to go out for a coffee or to meet her friends alone, to give you some time apart? Maybe you can suggest something like that. Or you each go to your rooms more often to get some time apart from each other.