Sex, lies, and STDs

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sex, lies, and STDs

Okay, this may make a few folks squeamish but then again, a lot of revelations about the disease can do that. I will try to relay this information without, though, hopefully offending anyone's comfort level regarding the discussion of sex and Crohn's disease and an interesting discovery.

I was diagnosed back in 1990 and my Crohn's is in both my colon and my rectum. I am used to the sensation of an abscessed rectum and the discomfort when it is even only inflamed. For the past three years, I have been healthy - a wheat-free and dairy-free diet has kept me off of all the drugs - and I'm getting back out into the dating scene after a divorce. Unfortunately, on one date with someone who I had been seeing for awhile, I got rather intoxicated, and commonsense and the fact that my Crohn's is in my rectum went out the window. Needless to say, I partook in a sexual activity that I shouldn't have and unprotected to boot.

Once sobered up and home, I bled for three days. My temperature yo-yo'd. I could barely sit. My biggest fear was that I might have an abscess so I hit the antibiotics I have to take for dental work and things seemed to be a bit better after a couple of days (yes, I self-medicated - not a good plan - and I only had enough for two days). It allowed me to avoid a dreaded trip to the ER at least for awhile. But the pain came back and I would feel feverish. I also felt ill and a bit dizzy. To top it off, I developed an odd sense of numbness and tingling from the groin area going down both legs. I never had that with an abscess. I had just been tested for STDs right after the incident but having had a hysterectomy in 1994, one test was not done due to a lack of a cervix - the one for chlamydia.

As the days went by and things seem to be getting worse, I started Googling for the symptoms with a cross-reference to Crohn's disease. Well lo and behold - guess what folks. I learned that chlamydia can infect your rectum if it finds its way in there, particularly if you have Crohn's because of the immune system and all. I got myself over to an urgent care clinic, explained what happened to a very understanding and nonjudgmental doctor, and asked for a chlamydia test for my rectum. Upon examination, he said he was wondering how I was even managing to sit as the rectum was so inflamed. He took the swab and a few days later (after several retests to make sure the tests results were correct) the results came back positive.

Chlamydia in the rectum is extremely rare, so rare that I was only one in just a few cases reported in this state this year. But it is a reminder to everyone that no matter what your sexual activity comfort level might be, this is a risk for at least one form of unprotected sex and having Crohn's makes you a better target for it to take hold. I was given a course of antibiotics for a week and I tested clean after that. But it sure was scary and the doctor still is amazed I had thought to check out the symptoms and to insist on being tested. What can I say? I have Crohn's disease. When my body speaks, I listen.

Footnote: I did contact my sexual partner from that encounter regarding the test results. He never returned my calls and we have not dated since.
 
Thats a bugger (in all cases), its good that you listened to your body. Regardless of our indervidual oppinions or actions on the subject it is a good thing for all those with IBD to know.

thanks for shareing it cant have been easy (at any point from the disease to seeing the dr to posting it here)

All the best
Kate
 
Thank you for sharing your story with us. It hopefully will help others. We learn by living and making mistakes, so I know that this had to have been a learning experience for you. I wish you the best of luck with the management of your health.
 
sorry you had to go through any of that. can not have been easy for you to go through and then have to tell a DR let alone post about it here. very brave of you, and Im sure helpful to anyone. good to have any information to arm yourself with.
hope your health is well now, and you can put it all behind you.
 
I'd like to say wht a horrible and awful partner to have sex with, especially anal sex, I presume is what your talking about.

By the way can we bring up pretty much ANYTHING on this forum? I know other forums dont alow cussing, or breaking slight SLIGHT, ridicuous rules, some of you may know about this from HW. If you dont know what HW is sorry. I dont really want to advertise something as awful, unfair, non-suppotive, gang-like, sinlged out, type of support group.

i have notice there are regular posters here which REALLY makes me happy.Im the type of person that will be here everyday. I get numerous news letteers, sucribed to many crohns and collitis mags, websites, and books, numberous things, so as you can tell I stay up on as much Crohns knowlege and actually UC also if I run across.
 
I think it's absolutely wonderful that this site promotes an atmosphere where folks with IBD can openly discuss symptoms and related subjects... without fear of judgement, ridicule or censorship. Lets face it, a lot of the topics and descriptions would not be welcomed in other areas of the general populace. I feel we owe it to ourselves, and to the people as yet undiagnosed, to be as open & forthcoming as possible. I think to have the courage to discuss this topic speaks volumes for the character of the people posting... But I also feel that we have an obligation to try to keep in mind that many people with IBD are very young & impressionable. I myself have, without thinking, used language that as a parent, I wouldn't use freely in front of my kids. I promise to try to police myself in future. I think as members we can each pledge & police ourselves in a similar fashion.. but I am referring to context more than I am content... I think and I hope that every1 get's my meaning... i.e. any discussion/posting of IBD or IBD related topics should not only be allowed, the poster should be congratulated on having the courage to do so... yet each poster should try to 'edit' their submissions so that it falls within a limit that would be acceptable to the parents of younger members. Conduct of any sort that falls outside of acceptable boundaries should not be tolerated.. You should freely be able to discuss topics as adult centric as sexually related problem
that might adversely impact a person with IBD, but if you just want to talk 'dirty', I think you should find (or be asked to find) another website for those postings, OK?

I mean, if this site is to continue & to flourish, AND to provide free & open info for those with or living with some form of IBD, then it pretty much has to be free/open
But we as participants have to guard against abusing it, intentionally or otherwise

Or maybe I'm just an ole fuddy duddy... Anyway, One Awesome Broad, I tip my hat to you, and want to reiterate my admiration of you for bringing this info to us..
 
Thanks for support

I tried my best to communicate a rather embarrassing and controversial topic without going into too much detail on the activity but rather the results. My apologies if I have offended - wasn't sure how else to share this information. :blush:
 
I think this was a very good post. I can also see the embarassing part, so I congratulate you on posting this. I think it may be quite useful.
 
One Awesome Broad said:
My apologies if I have offended - wasn't sure how else to share this information. :blush:

no offense here. I was very impressed, and more than a bit envious of your courage in the matter. I think you worded it perfectly. I for one am glad you posted.
I think most of us here have had to learn to be a lot more open minded about things.
 
I'd like to say what an awful person for not returning your calls. But I would probably feel horrible and thats probably why they didnt I would imagine.

I think that would be pretty darn scarey.

I'm totally used to the rectal abcesses, 16 here. Not to shabby huh? lol

I notice you have a new mustang? I have a 88 5.0, actually two of the exact car except one has a sun room, one I'm restoring. I've redone almost everything, have all new carpet and interior, new black leather, and black carpet, got the door panels redone in black leather instead of cloth and vinyl, new steering wheel, new axle, hood, spoiler, drag springs, I've pretty much replaced everything, I've picked the engine out, almost enough to get it now.
 
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Which forum is this? :)

Skinsfan1229 said:
I notice you have a new mustang? I have a 88 5.0, actually two of the exact car except one has a sun room, one I'm restoring. I've redone almost everything, have all new carpet and interior, new black leather, and black carpet, got the door panels redone in black leather instead of cloth and vinyl, new steering wheel, new axle, hood, spoiler, drag springs, I've pretty much replaced everything, I've picked the engine out, almost enough to get it now.

Oh, dear. I think we're in the wrong forum. Yes, you noticed a 2006 in legend lime green. I have found being able to on road rallies and not have to worry about where the nearest pit stop is a definite plus to being healthy. And the seats in the thing are comfortable, too - a plus in our situation. :lol:
 
Thank you for posting this.

My current girl friend has Crohn's and she is in pain at least a few times a month. I have gotten better at being supportive and also just leaving her alone when she doesn't want me there (Most offten she just wants to be left alone when in pain). Anyway I just recently got all of my STD testing finished. I totally understood when we started dating that it was a requirement as a STD could cause serious problems. Lucky for us I have always used condoms. So sex has been very good and she even brought up that she would consider giving me anal sex now if I wanted it. I considered it as it does seam tempting but then decided to do research because I wondered if it could cause problems. She has been so good to me and most likely only wants to perform that sex act to thank me for std testing and being good to her. Having read this I think I will be good to her in return and just take anal play off the table entirely. Their are so many other ways to make sex/love with out butt stuff.
 
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