Hugs to you! :ghug: It's just heartbreaking when we have to ask our children to do something so unpleasant! :ghug: No experience with humira but I would definitely insist on the lidocaine - it should be an easy thing to do (ie I think the GI just needs to prescribe the lidocaine and, perhaps, you need to mix it??) so, I would think well worth it if it lessens the pain.
Also curious why not remicade first... My son has remi infusions and doesn't mind them (although he is older), biggest downside is the apptmt every six weeks (but, he is out of town at school, so it does take a bit more planning).
If you do have the option of choosing between humira and remicade, I would speak to your daughter about the choices. It's possible her humira schedule will be tightened (every 10 days or weekly) and, if she has a difficult time with needles, etc., you need to keep this in mind. Teens can be tough and you don't want to find yourself in a position where she starts refusing the shots because they're too frequent. Frequency of remicade can also be tightened (from 8 weeks to 6 or even every 4 weeks), but I don't think it's ever more frequent than 4 weeks and remi isn't painful (only the iv poke). So, even though she's only 13, I would make her aware of the options and consequences of each and let her have a say in the choice.
I'm sure you already know but, with biologics, if you stop using them, you can develop antibodies and not have that med available to you again. So, she needs to know, the decision she makes, she must stick with.
Of course, there are benefits with humira as well... more convenient, even if weekly. Shot can be done anywhere and takes just a few minutes. Remi infusion takes approx. 2-3 hours and schedule can't vary by more than a few days (ie you need to plan ahead for vacations, etc.). Unless your clinic has Saturday apptmts, she'll have to miss school.
Another remi benefit is they do labwork at the same time. Not sure how often labwork is done with humira but it will require a visit to lab and another 'poke'.
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