It really is such a very tough decision, undoubtedly the toughest I've ever faced. Since EEN put Stephen into clinical remission, he's had very, very few outward symptoms. Stephen's ped GI was fine with keeping him only on EN as maintenance. While MREs continued to show some inflammation and a couple of times mentioned that at some point mtx might have to be considered, he never reached the point that he suggested we add it. I don't know if he was right or wrong? I questioned his acceptance of the inflammation but was happy to not add meds. :ywow: Of course, I would not have been so 'happy' if complications had arisen due to the ongoing inflammation!
Upon transfer to adult GI, new GI was adamant that remi was needed to eliminate the inflammation immediately as it could very likely lead to eventual surgery. On one hand, I was happy that he was taking such a proactive approach but on the other hand had very serious concerns that he was 'brushing all with the same stroke', and not taking into account that S had no symptoms and had been stable for so long on only EN. I'm certainly not convinced his GI considered all options before jumping to the biologics, specifically LDN, but completely understand his reasons for his recommendation.
Given Stephen's age, I had to accept his decision (to add remi) even knowing that, at 18, he was probably not thinking it all out as I had done (no one can think it 'all out' as much as a scared and worried mom!
). Not at all saying Stephen's decision was wrong, just that Stephen, to a degree, was blindly following what the GI had recommended rather than considering ALL issues (lifestyle/repeated infusions, etc. not just cancer risk). I could probably have convinced him not to start remi but, if he ended up requiring surgery or feeling as NGNG does, it would have been my fault. All I could do was give him all the info I had and an opinion as unbiased as I could give. And then support him 100% in his decision and truly believe he had made the best decision he could with the options given him (which is what we all do, regardless of what med we choose or not choose).
xmdmom - there are many on here who feel as NGNG and have, unfortunately, found,
in hindsight, that they could/should have done something differently. I am so grateful that they share their experience to help guide others and
very much take their experiences into account! BUT, there are probably just as many, if not more, who are not on this forum, who have chosen lesser drugs and are doing absolutely fine. Once in a while, you find a new member who comes on and says 'oh, I was fine for 25 years and just got a bad flare...' If you can make 25 years with no or little meds and then have a flare, I think you've done okay! Problem is, none of us have that crystal ball. Whatever your son's decision is, I don't think it's a wrong one (as a doctor, I'm sure you will be aware when things are truly out of control). He is making the best decision
for him that he can under the circumstances. :ghug: :ghug: