Constantly Hearing About Friend's Awesome Food

[Hal Silver]

I am 21, diagnosed with CD two years ago, it destroyed my college plans, lifestyle and my ability to live independently. Finally improving, starting Remicade this week and hoping to get back to some kind of real LIFE soon, but have been horribly depressed about the whole situation and been angry a lot. I don't even get to have my go-to outlet for frustration anymore (exercise) because I just don't have the energy to do it at the level I had and want so its just more depressing. Anyway. here is a specific annoying problem I keep having:

I have a friend that CANNOT SHUT THE HELL UP UP about food.

Its like this guy has NOTHING else to talk about! He will go into loving, smug, excruciating detail about what he is going to be cooking today and the next day and what they had yesterday and just GUSHING about how great it is. He will describe to me every detail of an elaborate meal he is planning on making his family, and how he will do it, and how his tricks make it that much better, right after hearing me say I'm depressed by eating nothing but the same soup for three days in a row.

I have had an extremely limited diet for two, almost three years plus the year I was undiagnosed when I could barely eat at all, so its been about four years since I could eat normally. I can't eat a lot at once without pain so I'm basically hungry all the time. I can't eat ANY of the foods this person gushes about so it is just super depressing t have my face rubbed in it all the time. Its like he's dangling it in front of me while I get nothing. It makes me super angry and he just cannot seem to grasp why.


I'm a 21 year old guy. I spent my teenage years being stronger than everyone. I was an athlete. Now I'm a good forty pounds lighter and weak as a kitten because I'm slowly starving to death from a combination of not being able to eat and not being able to absorb anything when I do. DEAR GOD I DO NOT WANT TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR AWESOME SOUNDING DINNER THAT I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO TOUCH.

I desperately want to just scream at this guy to shut his mouth whenever he starts on this but I am running out of friends to begin with because they all moved away for school and got on with their lives and I have a hard time making new ones because I can't really get involved in things because of my energy level. I just feel really abandoned, except for this one guy who just happens to still live nearby, and he won't shut the hell up about food I used to love and may never get to have again.

Super pissed. Super frustrated in general. This specifically is going to make me crazy too.

 

[Orchid]

You seriously need to have a sit down talk with him about this, it's just going to keep festering until you snap at him. If he doesn't respect your wishes he's no "friend" of yours and doesn't need to be in your life. Be forceful, but polite, you have needs that aren't being met and this isn't acceptable.