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IBD and depression
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I feel the same way..when i'm in remission I'm fine but during my bad flares I sink into such a terrible depression. I'm pretty good about dealing with the mental issues on my own, but I'm starting to question whether this is really such a great idea. i think that sometimes my thoughts are just a bit too dark for me to think i'm doing to great job dealing with the emotional side. I think it may be more of a bipolar disorder. It runs in my family and I have such extreme highs and lows when I have a flare. One second I'm super happy and positive and the next I'm wishing I had a terminal disease so I wouldn't have to deal with it anymore. Any suggestions about how I should approach this with my doctor? Do I talk to my GI dr about it or a family practice physician?
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I could post this on the vent forum but since I feel it's more mental I thought I write it here. My body is in pain, my mind is racing and my heart is numb. You'd think after all these years of having this illness, I'd be able to cope better with it than I am. However I have had all these extra aches and pains from my hips, shoulders, chest and eyes that seem to have gotten progressively worse in the past year. I found out yesterday it's due to my job. I went from housewife of 10 years, doing nothing more physically challenging than house work to heading up the mowing crew for the city. I've had this job 2 years now and LOVE IT! The aches and pains, swelling and fatigue have hit me so hard it almost brings me to my knees. I don't let it because the insurance I have with this job is awesome and pays for 80 percent of all my medical expenses. And with having 3 doctors I have to pay for I couldn't afford it without my insurance. I was told yesterday by one of my doctors that I should start thinking about finding a new profession. I gotta say that killed me. I love my job and actually look forward to going to work everyday. But this is too much on my body. I'm hoping these new meds...celebrex and a topical cream of some kind will help me with the pain and allow me to continue with this job as long as I can. But at the same time I have a 13 year old daughter who needs me to be healthy but she needs my medical insurance as well so...I need a new mind set I suppose.
I'm also in a marriage that I have been questioning for a few years now. Not because he's a jerk, or cheating on me or anything that red flags divorce...it's just over the years we have grown apart. We are great friends and respect each other as such. And we live each other as family does but as far as loving each other as husband and wife?? It's jus not there. Our sex life is few and far between. Last year we talked about going our separate ways but staying close for our daughter. I had this job and knew I'd be okay financially so we talked and talked and talked some more about how to separate in the easiest less messy way. Then in between all the talking and the physically demanding work I do, I got worse. Doctor appointments and testing took place of our planning our separation and now....I don't know if we should separate afterall. He doesn't want to now. A part of me doesn't either but I don't know if it's because I'm sick and can't do it alone or if somewhere along the line we started feeling for each other again.
So now...the job that I love so much is in jepordy as well as my independence, my health is pissing me off and a marriage I was sure I didn't want anymore feels like an obligation now. And to top it off my husband has been trying to get me to relocate for his job to a town that I can't stand and now that it looks like I may end up losing my job I have no choice but to relocate with him. I see resentment in my near future!! Towards him as well as my crippled 60 year old body. Can I pay senior citizen rates when we go out to eat?? Cuz I feel like I should qualify!!!
Any advice out there as to how I change my mind set? How do I live my life without feeling like I'm settling? How do I cut out stress when I don't have an outlet? I know that a lot of my problem is stress. My job used to help with stress until I was told I shouldn't be doing it anymore, so now I'm stressed at work. I was diagnosed bipolar years ago but it wasn't severe enough for medication. Is it now I wonder???
Please!! Somebody! Anybody! Help!