Dating!

[StarGirrrrl]

So how do you guys and girls manage dating with IBD?

I'm undiagnosed, but yet again they are looking for CD- every few years this comes around again and at the moment there has never been so much evidence.

It has been a long, long, long time since I dated and I joined a dating website recently.

I have been open about having health issues without going into details.

I have my first date Friday and i'm super nervous! :drink:

This guy has been totally sweet and considerate when I said I didn't want the date to involve food, and if we see each other again it'll be at least date #3 lol before food is involved.

I don't plan to mention the bowel problems for a while because I am just too embarrassed. Normally I am matter of fact about my illness, but here I am having issues!

Anyone got tips or experience they'd be willing to share

 

[Crohns08]

When I was out and dating I didn't tell the guy until we got past a few dates. I didn't see the point in telling someone that I wasn't sure if I liked yet or not. With my husband, he friended me on Facebook and I don't hide that I have crohn's on there. About 2 weeks in or so he just straight up asked me about it and I let him know I wasn't trying to conceal it that I just hadn't figured out how to tell him yet and he understood and has stayed by my side. I recently was hospitalized in December for a flare and he saw the good, the bad, and the downright ugly and stayed with me every night that he could, which was all of them except the 2-3 days he had to wake up early to go on base as he is Air Force. He would even lay with me in my tiny hospital bed when I needed cuddles and during my iron infusion when I was scared because of a previous bad reaction.

 

[Cross-stitch gal]

Good luck on your date and I hope you have lots of fun!!!!! Sounds like you've already got a good one though. I didn't tell my husband right away either. I totally understand the apprehension. But, hopefully all will go smoothly and we're here for ya. Hugs

 

[StarGirrrrl]

It was a good date and we both had a nice time. We both want to see each other again but i'm not sure about anything after date no.2, going to see how it goes.

Really liked him but more as a nice guy/friend rather than a potential partner. I didn't feel a spark.

He seems super keen (not to brag) to have a relationship but i'm not looking for long term right now.

I only just joined the dating website and I want to go on many dates and have some fun.

Not sure about going for the first one that comes along, I want to live a little!

:dusty:

 

[Cross-stitch gal]

Glad your date went well!!! Be very careful on those dating websites though!!!! You never know what you're going to get. We want to keep you safe. :hug:

 

[MizzSarah]

I wish I was as brave as you to get back into dating. I’ve had some really terrible experiences with dating and crohns—-and just the thought of doing it again gives me extreme anxiety.