Feeling like a burden

[moonrai1980]

Feeling pretty down today. Spent all day in the emergency room, from a headache that was so bad everytime I moved I threw up. My husband took me and he is a full time college student. I even let him use my laptop so he could study while we were there. Bonus about the whole thing was the doctor set me up with a g.i doctor in two weeks. So get home and sleep some more. And sent my husband to go get my meds today, and he gives me a call just to let me know how hard he needed to study and how being at the emergency room all day he didn't get to study like he needed and since he had to pick up meds that was preventing him from studying which was really what he shouldve been doing instead of carting me aound. I just want to give up on everything I'm tired of being a burden to everyone. I'm tired of being told I'm lazy, or that is all in my head.

 

[JThorn676]

Big hugs! I'm sorry your husband isn't being understanding. Why couldn't he study in the hospital while you guys were there? I was in the hospital for 2 weeks and my husband got a bunch of studying/tests done.

You are NOT a burden, lazy and this is not in your head! Your husband may be stressed which is NOT a good excuse. I just know it took a huge toll emotionally/physically on all my family to see me so sick. My family was pretty understanding but I still felt like a huge burden also.

Again, i'm sooo sorry you are going through this. I hope you start feeling better and good luck with the GI dr.

 

[mickey]

Perhaps you can print out some information for your husband to understand more about Crohns and know it is not in your head. Everything we do in lift is a gift and while it may be hard to see that silver lining, this experience will transform your relationship and hopefully make it closer. Keep focused on your recovery and know that you need to release negative energy and keep focused on your positive recovery. You can do it!

 

[moonrai1980]

So I'm still not sure why he wasn't studying in the e..r like he could've been. But after I took a peak at what he was studying it all looked like gibberish to me. I got stressed just looking at it.
I've tried and tried to get him to read up on Chrons and lupus. But he will glance and not want to discuss it or actually read it. Very frustrating.