My fiance was recently diagnosed with Crohn's disease. He got a fistula on his tush over a year ago, and after a surgery and a colonoscopy, he was diagnosed with Crohn's (about a year after the fistula appeared). It took him a long time to accept the Crohn's diagnosis, but he finally did and went on Pentasa and Humira. After a month and a half on Humira, he developed blurred vision and was recently diagnosed with optic neuritis as a side effect of the Humira.
It sucks. A lot. And he doesn't have good health insurance, so he and his father have had to pay a LOT out of pocket.
What's worse (in my opinion) is his mental health. He's always struggled with depression, and lately it has gotten really, really bad. He has broken off our engagement twice, afterwards admitting that he wants to push me away so that when he kills himself, it won't hurt as much.
I'm trying so hard to be supportive, and I've asked him to go to therapy (he hasn't yet, but I have hope that he might). I'm seeing a therapist to deal with all of this. Does anyone have advice for me? Did you go through this with your partner as well? What do you wish your partner had done to support you?
It sucks. A lot. And he doesn't have good health insurance, so he and his father have had to pay a LOT out of pocket.
What's worse (in my opinion) is his mental health. He's always struggled with depression, and lately it has gotten really, really bad. He has broken off our engagement twice, afterwards admitting that he wants to push me away so that when he kills himself, it won't hurt as much.
I'm trying so hard to be supportive, and I've asked him to go to therapy (he hasn't yet, but I have hope that he might). I'm seeing a therapist to deal with all of this. Does anyone have advice for me? Did you go through this with your partner as well? What do you wish your partner had done to support you?