Can an old straight guy offer condolences... and commiserate? Despite my advanced age, and the deterioration added to that by my disease.... everything still works. Whoopee, right? Wrong!!! First of all, my stamina post disease just ain't what it used to be. Second... my gut full of scar tissue means sexual activity is hit or miss proposition. It is pretty damn... aggravating.... frustrating... I met this extremely lovely lady last year, and as I said... everything still works... and there are times when I have some reserves of stamina left... BUT... some/little/any (take your pick, it is totally unpredictable) pelvic thrusting typically results in... either massive internal cramping (try staying "interested" with that as a distraction) OR same cramping WITH massive outburst of flatulence (talk about your mood disruptors) ... or occasionally (count your blessings)... everything goes according to plan. Problem is... there is no way to tell at the beginning what outcome it will be. I'd give up on it entirely... except.. the lady in question is such a dish that she really shouldn't risk going into a Greek restaurant. The cuddling, etc., is nice... AND, if you are male (regardless of orientation) sooner or later, you have to bid your favourite toy goodbye...... so..... it really isn't something that every man won't encounter at some point. AND (final thought) many people confuse intimacy and sexual gratification. I am almost ambidextrous.... so I can achieve gratification any time I wish. But have you ever tried to hug yourself? Want true intimacy? Try the non demand position... any position in which you can please your partner but it is physically impossible for them to reciprocate. So there are no demands placed upon them... no expectations, no obligations, just their pleasure.
He still gets pleasured though,apparently enough that he actually mentioned that he has never received so much oral sex from me 
