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[juicy24]

Well I went to the doctor today, and he wants to do colonoscopy to see whats going on. I havn't had one for about 2 yrs because I had surgery. They removed my lower illeum and fixed a fistula. I have been having mixed symptoms, some of IBS and some of Crohn's so he wants to see whats going on. I agree that I need to have one done, I just hate it. I also hate the fact that my other half is not supportive. I told him that it was at 6am, his words were well your gonna drive there so I can sleep (we live about an hour away from where the test will be done). I freaked out, I will have no sleep and well you know the rest. All hes worried about is his sleep. I don't understand why he seems to not care. Is anyone elses other half like that? We have been together for almost 7 yrs. He knows what happens with a colonoscopy. I don't even want him taking me now. I think what makes it worse is the fact that im upset to because I am scared. It's like I am starting over again. I just don't understand if its a guy thing or its just him.

 

[xJillx]

I hear ya, colonoscopies are the worst. Well, the procedure aint bad, but the prep - oh dear! But it's an important test to keep an eye on things. I hope all goes well.

As for the other half, I am sorry he isn't being supportive. My husband is very supportive, but even he has his days. He often asks if we can go to a more local GI, because going into Philadelphia is an all day event. I think sometimes guys don’t look at the big picture. Anyways, having a colonoscopy is a very stressful day, and he should be there for you. Being that it has been 2 years since your last procedure, perhaps he doesn't remember all that it entails? I would stress to him that his presences is important to you. I sure hope he'll rethink wanting to sleep in to be with you.

 

[juicy24]

Thank u Amy and Jill, I know I need some change have for a long time I'll let ya know what they say

 

[AndiGirl]

It could be just a, "guy thing," but I agree that it is pretty insensitive. My husband is basically supportive, but he does get upset when I'm not taking care of myself the way that I should. He has been to two of my colonoscopies. I think you need a serious heart to heart with your beau.

 

[juicy24]

Thank u

 

[ameslouise]

Hey Juicy - How's it going? Did you get your scope yet? Pop on and give us a report!

- Amy

 

[Astra]

'a rampant rabbit and a cab work better!!'

ha ha ha ha ha
a girl after my own heart!
xxx

 

[25times]

having an unsupportive partner really does make this alot harder, doesn't it?
I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now. He knows I've always been sick, so it wasn't a HUGE shock when I was diagnosed, but I was scared for many reasons and he didn't seem to be as concerned. I think I mistook stupidity for not caring. He just didn't know anything about it. He kept telling me that nothing would change, I'm still the same person, crap like that.

But it sounds like your "other half" is just a bad *******, and it sounds to me like you already have one of those, and you don't need another one.

I really hope your scope went well, and you figured out a ride. Having crohn's means making sacrifices and doing the best you can. If he can't see that, I'm sure you'll have no problem finding someone who does.

:hug:

 

[hannah-rose]

I was in love until recently, I thought he was the one and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, even though we hadn't been together that long.

He also made me miserable and he was controlling, patronising, uncompromising, and withdrew from the relationship as a means of punishing me when he was hurting. I thought I couldn't live without him.

Turns out I was wrong and I've been deliriously happy ever since we split up oh and the next time I fall in love I'll watch out for the warning signs!

A bad relationship is not better than no relationship.

I like the way Samantha puts it in Sex and The City: 'The measure of a good relationship is whether you're like this *smiles* or like this *frowns*' <3 SATC

 

[juicy24]

Thanks guys, sorry, being dealing with some other problems. Had my scope on weds. He took some biopsy's and I also had to have an MRI of my small bowel to rule out the disease there. He didn't really give me a straight answer because I still need the other tests. I always hate waiting, and I am still worried. I have been having lots of upset stomach with pain. They ended up moving it to a little later in the morning so it worked out. I don't know if I would rather have crohns or IBS. I've heard that IBS is a lot harder to treat, but then again so is crohns. I don't know hopefully they will book my MRI soon!
I also had a talk with my other half, I think he is scared to but of course he deals with it differently. That's no excuse of course! :ybatty:

 

[margie]

Hi Juicy,
My ex was that way, hence the ex. I couldn't take his being so unsupportive, so much so that I had chest pains one day, and he said well then you need to go see the doctor, instead of taking me I drove myself. The doctor looked at me, took an EKG, and came out and asked where my husband was, and I said at home with his face in the tv and he said are you kidding me, well my only question is whether you are well enough to drive yourself to the hospital or whether I send you by ambulance. You know I sat in intensive care for 24 hrs and he never came to the hospital or let the kids know that I was even there. I could have died alone. One reason why he is now the ex. Very unsupportive to say the least. You are not alone there.

I hope that everything goes well with the colonoscopy. Keep us posted.

 

[juicy24]

Cheers everyone having a lovely time drinking barium
Sulfate for my MRI!