I have been working at my job for almost two years. I have two bosses, one is higher up and the other is the one I report to. Well the boss I report to was nice at first and then did a total 180 and started acting cold towards me. He criticizes everything I do.
When I was diagnosed in April with Crohn's. And the higher boss recognized it and acknowledges it. My boss whom I report to does not. He doesn't mention it and keeps being stand offish. I have had to step away from my desk and he complains.
Today I got a notice about some work that needs to be done by Friday but of course we are short staffed and my job is to answer phones. There is no way it's going to get finished.
This boss gives me nothing but stress and I have no idea what to do about it. Literally thinking about moving to another job within a few months. However I am absolutely disappointed that I have no support for what I'm battling.
Any similar stories out there? Or any advice?
This sounds horrible lovely
I have a similar story, literally two supervisors as well and diagnosed in May.
So when I was getting tested, i told my supervisors all about it (as they already knew I'd been really unwell). Though I would tell my bosses I had a test the next day, this particular boss would always call and ask me to work that following day (that I told them I couldnt?! I'm a casual employee).
Now in my industry because work is so sought after and competitive, it looks horrible if you turn down any work that becomes available to you. It took me 7 years of studying, volunteering and working in other jobs to make my way up to where I am now. So after turning down only 2 shifts due to tests being done (that she knew about!), I turned up at work the next time and my name had been wiped off the roster. I asked a senior member of the team if he knew what was going on and he ended up taking me outside and saying that my supervisor wasn't impressed I'd turned down work and to just try my best to keep working through it. I of course was so embarrassed and upset, I burst into tears.
It wasn't as if I had a choice, i wasn't turning down work to go to the beach with friends..
Anyway in the end I told her when i was diagnosed with Crohns, she completely opened up to me and told me that she has it too. Because of the nature of our work, it's not great to be immunosuppressed, so she told me that she's managed her Crohns through diet. As it was all new to me, I naively believed this and got upset when my GI told me I'd be stupid to follow that advice as I was very unwell and needed meds instantly.
Long story short, I didn't get ANY work from her side of the department for over 4 months. Only recently did I gain work again from her and i find out she actually has IBS. She continues to tell me how I should do what she does (naturopathy), while I try to explain the huge difference between our two conditions..
After all of that, it's made me reconsider my career choices (I have applied to go to university to study nursing). I still get extremely stressed when I have to go to work which inevitably makes my crohns flare badly. Even other members of staff are constantly upset and stressed, not physically well and are seeing psychiatrists because of it.
At the end of the day, you have to do what's right for you. I completely get you with the nervous about talking to superiors part (my eyes literally water when I speak to anyone of authority) but from the sounds of it, that small scary moment will be worth saving you from all that unnessesary stress.
Wishing all the best for you, please know I'm always here to chat if you wanted.
