Judgements on appearance - discusted.

[crohndee]

judgements on appearance - discusted.

My friend recently caught up with an ex manager of mine.
Apparnatly this ex manager used to think i was shooting up heroin because i rocked up to work with bruises on my arm... Bruises which were from blood tests and being in hospital for IV infusions to treat post operative infections...

I also went to work once with an eye infection because my immune system was messed up from meds and general crohns... and another boss accused me to my face of being stoned... when i said i had an eye infection she said she didnt believe me and that i should not do it again or there will be consequences...

I actually went home and cried...

Friend's have called me anorexi before because of all the weight i lost... and general struggles to put on weight and because i have a small appetite... and when i returned to school after months of being sick and on high dose of cortisone.. 'friends' were commenting on my face.. saying it looked like i had a face lift..

have other people encountered such ignorance? how did you deal with it....

 

[EmAitch88]

wow, i can't imagine that happening to me!! i've never had someone be so upfront with me like that......i'm sorry that people have been so rudely blunt to you! haha. i have not had the same "issues" that you have (operations, etc.) -knock on wood-

friends have joked with me about my "track marks" when i've had IVs or blood drawn, bruises from them....for your bosses to assume you're on drugs just because of your appearance is stupid. even though we all do it, doesn't make it okay to be that presumptuous in the work place. -especially to be that presumptuous and vocalize it.

i hope people give you the benefit of the doubt in the future.

 

[Del]

That is very unprofessional and actually a slur on your character.
He/she are on thin ice there..
Did your bosses know that you have Crohn's disease?

 

[kiny]

I had it happen years ago. I had an IV in my arm and lots of blood samples taken showed on my arm. I was very skinny at the time too.

So people thought I was a heroin / crack addict because they saw I was skinny and they saw the marks on my arm.

Honestly I didn't care, I really stopped caring what people think about me, I focus on me and me comes first, not what anyone thinks about me.

 

[Gwen pippy]

My heart goes out to you, it's not nice at all. I have had so many of those situations over the years that I just laugh them off now. School - the anorexia rumour. Work - the junkie rumours but the funniest had to be the pregnant rumours, as many of you may experience stomach distention will understand.
I met my hubby through work and was on steroids at the time, skinny arms and legs huge belly, he fancied me but thought I was pregnant and couldn't ask me out. It came out later that his family thought the same when they first met me.
Out to dinner one night with hubby and I enter restaurant with flat belly, eat bold food and BAM big belly, waitress said "you must be so excited, when are you due" hubby and I nearly fell off seat with laughing but I didn't want to make a scene so I said oh SOON and when I was leaving tummy went flat again, waitress couldn't take her eyes off me, never went back there again!!!
I have been given seats on trains when not pregnant and left standing when I was, as pregnant bump was smaller than distended belly.
So let them think what they want, most people just want juicy gossip and then they move on.

 

[stratford]

Honestly I didn't care, I really stopped caring what people think about me, I focus on me and me comes first, not what anyone thinks about me.

I've found over the years this is the only way to deal with arrogance you sometimes have to face.
I have seen some nasty arrogance in the many years since i was diagnosed.
I've been called every name going because i don't drink alcohol (not 'one of the lads').Been told i 'need to pull myself together' during some of the most difficult times.Clueless arrogance.
I was told i had Crohn's (officialy) in my early 20's - my decision, but i have never become a Dad(mid 40's now).I never had the confidence to think i could support a family & it scared the life out of me i might give the little one Crohn's.I've been accused of being Gay due to this.
Arrogance i found hard to take - nowadays i don't care what anybody thinks, i just look after number one.