Just ventin

[missylock42]

so u was in hospital for 3 days due to flare up and now I am on insulin shots my family I feel like a burden , heard my hubb tell his family just another thing to worry about . my anxiety is kickin in I just wish he could understand things and how I am feelin Troyes tellin him just and to vent . thank u everyone

 

[Jim (POPS)]

missy,
You have been through alot the last week. I'm so sorry you are feeling that way, but you are not a burdon to anyone in your family. By your husband saying its just another thing to worry about, thats just his way of saying, we will get through this. Before I got crohns my wife had colitis, way back when we first got married, 39 years ago, and I just wanted her to get well. But I do have to say I felt sorry for myself also. I know thats not a nice thing to do but we sometimes do that. Now that I have crohns I know what she was going through. I'm glad that I have been able to be on both ends of this, my wife having IBD and not understanding, and me having crohns and now understanding. Not many people can say they have that. lol

Because you have went through so much in the last few weeks you will be very sensitive to most anything that is said about you and crohns. Please, take the time to think before you say anything to your family, they really do Love you and they want the best for you. You will see that in time. You will be fine soon and look back at this time differently than you do now.

Keep coming back here for support and remember, YOU ARE NOT A BURDON to anyone, really, your not. :hug:

Jim (Pops)

 

[mickey]

please sit down and speak to your husband about what you are feeling. Perhaps he is not aware of how you are processing comments at this time. Get strong and feel better soon! We all have our moments of weakness and need time to heal.

 

[mwkwmn]

You are not a burden I agree with talking to your husband he needs to understand what you go through each day and he should be 100% supportive. Sending you hugs and support hang in there.

 

[Yupitsme]

While we all agree that you are not a burden. I think its safe to say that we have all felt as tho we were burdens as well ...I have at least. So you're not alone, but most of the time its more our feeling than those who are helping us.

And sometimes they say things in passing or to others that they mean so lightly or that we take out of context simply because we feel so helpless. So you definitely should talk to your husband, while he said that, i doubt very seriously that he meant it the way it came across and mayb if he knows how you feel it'l make him stop and think next time. bc i'm sure he wouldnt want to hurt your feelings. Hang in there!