Hi Barbara,
I'm so sorry to hear that your son is having such a difficult time (and, you too!)
But, I'm glad you've found this forum. There are some wonderful members who are always happy to offer support and share their knowledge; and, of course, the parents who certainly all understand the many concerns and worries!
My son was diagnosed last May when he was 16 years old. My son's treatment has been Enteral Nutrition only. This is a nutritional formula that has a comparable success rate at inducing remission as steroids, provides all necessary nutrition, has anti-inflammatory and healing properties and NO side effects! It usually has an 'exclusive' period when diet is the formula alone for a number of weeks (six weeks for my son) and then regular foods are reintroduced. My son's maintenance has been half the dose, 5 nights per week. The formula can be ingested orally (shakes) or through an NG tube overnight (which my son has used). This is often the first treatment option in Canada and Europe but isn't as commonly used in the U.S. There's quite a bit of information re EN on this subforum as well as in the Treatment forum.
Another treatment that is not commonly used is Low Dose Naltrexone (LDN). This drug is also not commonly prescribed as it was initially developed for treatment of other illnesses, however, studies have been made and there has been notable successes in its use for Crohns and other auto-immune diseases. There are very, very few side effects. There are a number of members who have found success using LDN. Again, there is much info re LDN in this forum as well as in the treatment forum.
If you haven't yet, have a look through the Treatment forum - you'll find lots of info there!
One more
There are also, at least, two members here who have undergone Stem Cell Transplants - their postings will provide you with lots of information (not sure where you'll find them - using the search feature for Stem Cell will get you there...)
It's horrible to see your child in pain and not be able to alleviate it right away! As my son is close in age to yours, I can well imagine how frustrated he must also be feeling. I hope you are able to find a treatment and some relief for him quickly! :ghug:
Good luck!