Mother to 13 year old son - very new diagnosis

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I'm the mother to a 13 year old son, Ben who was just diagnosed with Crohn's last month after completing an endoscopy and colonoscopy.

Ben started failing to put on weight and height about 2 1/2 years ago when he was 11. The pediatrician sent us to endocrinology for a work up. Through blood tests the growth hormones were checked and seemed to be normal. Hand x-rays showed delayed bone growth. They mentioned some slight inflammation markers but decided he must have been getting a cold. Sent us home with the advice "He is a late bloomer" and we were to return in 1 year.

1 year later we returned, he still hadn't grown. More blood tests. More slight inflammation. More x-rays. Sent home again for another year.

He went to his pediatrician for his 13 year check up and we were sent to endocrine at Pittsburgh's Children's Hospital and they put him on a high calorie, high fat diet for 6 months. I gained 5 lbs. and he gained nothing. He was now 13 years old, 54 inches and 66 lbs. Again with inflammation in blood work, but now malnutrition and anemia was found. They finally determined that there was no more they could do for him and sent him to G.I. to decide if there was an absorption issue.

He was scheduled for his scopes immediately and within 2 weeks of transfer to G.I. he had a diagnosis of Crohn's. There wasn't enough of the disease to explain the sig. delayed growth so they ordered a CT scan.

The results of the CT scan are terrifying and I still cry when trying to explain the phone call from the doctor.

She said his inflammation in the small intestine is significant and to the degree that would normally require surgery - but so much of his small intestine is affected that there would be none left if they operated. It was like being slammed against a brick wall.

She recommended that he get several vaccinations that didn't take as a child then 4 weeks later to begin a regimen of Remicade, Methotrexate, and steriods via IV. He begins his treatment 2 days before school begins, August 25th.

I am overwhelmed with trying to get him to drink his supplement shakes, reading books, learning about nutrition, crying, worrying, scheduling dr. appts, and fighting with insurance companies.

Even if no one reads this, it has been therapeutic to get this all off my chest. Thank you all so much for everything you post here, it helps so much to know that nearly any question I have has already been discussed here and I can find an answer.
 
Hi. Sorry to hear that things are not going well for Ben at the moment. Although things obviously seem bleak at the minute please remember that crohns is quite cyclical in nature and he may be experiencing a fairly bad flare currently which may ease in time aftet giving meds a chance to do their thing.
The road ahead may not be too appealing and is very hard at times but I hope you can find some inspiration from the people on this forum who despite what the condition throws at them still manage to live a fulfilling life with help from friends and loving relatives such as yourself.
 
Welcome to this board. I am so sorry you have a need to be here.

I know other more experiences parents will be alon to offer advice.

Some thought I have- has the doctor mention using EEN (liquid nutrition only) to help with the inflammation in the small bowel? That is something that could be done while waiting to start Remicade.

Had he had a colonscopy and EGD?
Some kids and adults have miracle stories with Remicade? I hope your child is the same!

Please check your private messages.
 
Big hugs.
Remicade worked well for DS . He was dx at age 7 after not gaining for two years.
First thing breathe.
He has a dx -that is key.
You can learn a lot from the parents section on drugs and success rates in kids.
DS took EEN ( formula only while on 6-mp) he switched to en ( formula plus food after that ).
He continues to drink 2-3 peptamen jr. A day orally.
Once remicade kicked on he was able to gained weight and grow.
He grew 7 inches and gained 36 lbs in -almost three years.
 
So sorry you and Ben are going through this. Check out the parents section of this board. Tons of support and information.
 
So sorry to hear that your son has been diagnose with this disease. My son is also 13 and was diagnosed when he was 10 years old. When my son was diagnosed he had stopped growing and lost a tremendous amount of weight. It took a while to get him back on track but I am happy to say that he is now growing and has definitely finally hit puberty. It is a shock when first diagnosed but it eventually gets easier to deal with.

As someone has already mentioned you might want to look into enteral nutrition. My son did exclusive enteral nutrition (EEN) for 6 weeks via a NG tube soon after diagnosis. It didn't completely solve things but it did help somewhat.

Good luck with the Remicade. Lots of people on here have had amazing results with it.
 
Big hugs to you and your son! It's crazy how Crohn's can elude us. My daughter was diagnosed in March at seven years old. She started Remicade early May. This past Friday she had her fourth infusion and her scope/colonoscopy. The pictures revealed incredible healing. She is in remission with just three infusions and she was infected in her throat, colon, small bowel. My daughter hasn't grown in height in nine months. We have her on growth hormone to hopefully give her a boost.

This forum is very informative. I know what you are going through and it is tough, but it will get better. Best wishes!

~ julia
 
So sorry to hear about your son's diagnosis. Remicade + Methotrexate worked great for my daughter - 9 months after diagnosis, she had almost clean scopes (just some mild inflammation in her terminal ileum)!! The Remicade infusions are very easy - my daughter even quite enjoys them because she gets a chance to relax, read and watch tv (and miss school).

Crohn's is definitely sneaky - my daughter had some stomach pain and that's really it before diagnosis. In retrospect, of course there were signs - mouth sores, anemia, fatigue -- but they were all very easily attributed to something else.

It will get better, the first few months are definitely the most overwhelming. This forum has lots of great info, and I know there are a number of parents with teenage sons on the parents' forum.
Hang in there and good luck!
 
Welcome to the forum. Sorry you have a need to be here. When my daughter was diagnosed her GI track was in very bad shape, very poor health. Now she is in remission and colonoscopy shows that her GI track is in good shape. What I am trying to say is that your son can get better soon. Hang in there. Sending hugs and support.
 
Thanks so much for the welcome and support. I am getting a grip and making a plan for his treatment. All of you are a wealth of experience and information. Thank goodness I found all of you.
 
I don't have much experience behind me to offer advice, but having just been through the shock and disappointment of the diagnosis with our daughter I want to send you heartfelt empathy. I hope with treatment he will be feeling well very soon, and able to make up the lost time for growth.
 
I hate looking back to those diagnosis days when everything was new and overwhelming. I have handled some really hard things in life but nothing prepared me for dealing with my daughter getting diagnosed. Take each day day by day. Don't start worrying about what things will be like in 6 months or a year. Focus on the now and learn everything you can & how it relates to your son.

I stayed up countless hours reading and researching when we were in the hospital at 1st diagnosis. I barely managed through our month long hospital stay but I wouldn't have done anything differently. Celebrate the little things when you can. My best advise is to help your son & you to find humor in all of this. Life is too serious, especially this disease so find laughter and smiles where you can. Things do get better in time.
 
My son too has been on Remicade for the past three months and so far we are experiencing tremendous results. The drug has given my son back his life!

I feel for you, it is so hard in the beginning, so much to process through in your mind. Hang in there, things will get better!
 

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