Really rough day.

[Hopefullx3]

Its late at night and need to vent about my day to others that understand. I have been told things that my boss has been saying about me lately one of which is (its only going to get worse, she better just get use to it.) Well over the weekend alot went on and i spoke my mind about a few issue that are getting out of hand at work, due to her. The replies i got were not very nice and nasty remarks were directed at me. I havent been able to talk to her or look at her for two days. She pulled me in the office and had me in tears, told me i better figure out how i am going to change myself and fast. We have a young girl student that works for us and calls in sick almost every shift. (she has depression) My boss does nothing but cover for her and praise her and says how awful she feels for her, but with me who doesnt miss time and puts in %100 percent gets nothing but rude remarks and hassled. I said why is it okay for her but not me, and said oh by the way i have been diagnosed as severly depressed for a long time now, but i didnt think it was anybodys buisness. She came back with oh well you cant compare yourself with a 19 year old kid. I was so upset. I have a house, three kids and bills to pay. I never asked to be sick I didnt cause my illness, and how do you know what i deal with. I really need to push being off now, I cant deal with such horrible people saying horrible things to me. I am just so worried to stop working and lose everything i worked so hard for if i cant get enough money to pay for it. Sorry i am ranting, have been crying all night and dont know what to do. I would love to make this friday my last shift. I just have to make a few more phone calls to set things in motion.

 

[SarahBear]

What an awful situation.

So, you have another job possibility lined up and are working towards sorting that out? It sounds like that might be the best option, if it's an option you do have. I don't think this lady wants to understand, so reasoning with her is pointless and just adds fuel to the fire.

I don't quite understand why being nineteen makes someone more deserving of sympathy… At nineteen, she's an adult as well. Are they related, or know each other outside of work in any way? There's obviously some sort of favoritism, for whatever reason. How ridiculous.

I hope things get better for you soon. You definitely don't deserve to be made to feel this way. You're right - this is in no way your fault, and you are doing an incredible job pushing through your illness to meet your responsibilities.

:hug:

 

[Hopefullx3]

Talked to my doctor, he said that is it no more, the stress is causing me to be worse. They dont know it yet but tomorrow will be my last day. I am taking a 15 week sick leave and while i am off i am applying for ODSP and my CPP. I just pray i will get enough to pay my bills or i will have no choice but to go back to work. I have been with the same company as a manager for 19 years now (since I was 18 years old) over half my life. I am the top rated manager at the store and have work everything around the company, even when my children would be born, so i would take the summer off so i didnt leave them short handed. Her job was recently on the line, and she cried on my shoulder if we didnt get a good mark for our store from our head office she might lose her job. I busted my butt for three weeks straight, this is when I crushed two disk in my back that cant be fixed because of the work I was doing. While she took a week off then came back and sat in the office for the following two weeks and let me do all the work. We got the highest marks of any store and guess who still has a job, and is telling me I better figure things out and fast cause i cant be upset in front of my crew. I am so upset. wish me luck things turn out. I will use all my resources i can to not go back. Thanks for your support.

 

[rrhood1]

Hope:
I'm in the same boat. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this. Female bosses can be the worst. I've been in my industry for 10 years and have a stellar reputation. Then got hit with a compressed disc this January and nerve pain all down my arm. My dr has taken me off on EI sick benefits and my company let me go. My dr would like to see me out of this work all together as the stress is killing me. Companies have no compassion. Do what you can to take care of yourself because no one is going to do it for you. I hope tomorrow goes okay for you. Let us know how things go. All the best!

 

[Hopefullx3]

I am up for work right now, just took my meds and some gravel, which i have been living on lately because my stomach is always upset. I am so happy to know i will be able to tell them i will be off work as of today so i can work on myself getting better, but also very sad because my crew and regulars (some i have known for my whole career) i wont get to see anymore. Some of my customer got together at Christmas and got me a card full of money to say thanks for everything i have ever done. Most of crew told me if i leave they are not staying that I am the reason they stay. I am also well respected by everyone. But last night was a very bad night, burning up, night sweats as always, i only had baked potatoes and i ran to the restroom 15 times and I mean running. I started to joke with my kids they slipped citromag in my water. They knew i was upset and they hate to see me in pain and crying. I also slept only about 2 hours and still i am up to go in again. I guess i will see where this journey is going to take me. I will let everyone know.

 

[Kero]

Keeping you in my thoughts today Update us and let us know how things go. Your health is number 1 <3

 

[LindaS]

I'm sorry you have to leave your coworkers and customers that you like, but I'm glad you will get some time to get better.

 

[DJW]

A nice thing with ODSP; you can work while on it when you start feeling better and it doesn't have to be permanent.
In your corner wishing you the best.

 

[jdpar]

You are not alone. I am in a very similar position. I work full time as a nurse in a doctor's clinic and my job is constantly threatened when I call in for work or have to leave early or miss because of a doctor's appointment. Although there are 3 of us who do the same job I do, I get the same amount of work done in 1 day as the other 2 get done in a week. (This has been proven by our system's reports.) The funny thing is, my boss used to be doing my job before she became boss last year. When she was doing my job she got diagnosed with cancer and they made special provisions for her like letting her miss for appointment and when she wasn't feeling good, and letting her take home a laptop to work from home when she couldn't come in. I have asked for these to apply to me. I would like to be able to work from home when I can't come in. But she has told me no over and over again without even asking the higher-up.
I have 4 kids at home and can't afford to go without working. I have considered applying for diability, but I'm too scared that I won't be able to live off of it. I'm thinking about trying to do some kind of work where I can work from home. But I haven't found anything promising yet.
Best of luck to you Hopefull! Looks like you're an excellent worker and they just can't see that.

 

[Hopefullx3]

Well I managed to only cry twice today, which is a good for me since i havent been able to stop crying in the past few weeks. Which is awful because i am one of those people that is to embarrassed to cry infront of others. I just havent been able to control it. I wrote my email tonight to my boss and the two head bosses of all the stores, that i am now on a sick leave as of today by doctors orders. The good thing is that i am very close with the two higher ups and have known them for years and i know they will be okay with it. I cried about it and was relieved about it at the same time but i know this is the only way for me to get better in my daily life. I now have a long road ahead of me. To apply for CPP and ODSP will be a long process but worth it if it all works out for me. I also know I have a back up job down the road if i need to go back. I have been offered several jobs over the years and today I was told the job is mine if i wanted it down the road. He said he has never seen such a dedicated hard working employee. I have alot of quailifications so that i am not worried about. I worry that my health seems to be getting so much worse and my body is going to give up soon on me. I thank everyone again and again, you are my support friends that i have never met and I feel lucky to have you all. I hope i can help someone down the road and support others to someday, and tell them it will all be okay. I will let you know how i make out. scared to hear back from work, no one has replied yet. I know my boss went out of town for a few days, so I will see what happens.
Thanks again!

 

[rrhood1]

Hope:
I'm glad you got through it. Now you need to take care of yourself. Be sure to watch for the signs of depression. Keep up a routine for yourself - no sitting in your pj's all day. Try to schedule some time away from the house every day - even if it's only a walk around the block or a trip to the drugstore. Our egos are so wrapped up in what we do that we tend to forget who we are.

Be good to yourself. Let us know if you need to talk.

 

[pink&green]

Hope, glad you are away from that boss of yours. Take care of yourself.

 

[Hopefullx3]

Thanks everyone for your support it was the hardest thing i have ever done and such a big decision. My husband left for work on my first official day of not returning to work and when i shut the door i just cried and cried. I felt like such a failure as a wife and mother not being able to support them the way I want to but being this sick I havent really been there anyway, because I am just to tired to do much of anything. I sent my email about being on sick leave to not only my store manager but to my two higher up managers that are just below the owner. I am very loved by them both, and I got really amazing replies to take care of myself and my job is always there for me. If I need anything let them know and they will do whatver they can. It kind of burned me inside because my boss knows what she said and did was wrong but wanted to look good for them. Exspecially when they are the ones that told her her job was on the line. My doctor was digusted at what was said and how I was treated, he said right now I need all the love and support I can get and that kind of stress will make me worse. He said he cant believe I made it this long dealing with everything that i have been through. Well thanks again, I will let you all know how I make out.