They are all scary to contemplate and accept!
Without a doubt, I know every parent here has gone through terrible times when faced with these meds. It is heartbreaking. It does get easier, especially when you see improvement. :ghug:
My son is on remicade and my thoughts and justifications are...
- without remicade, he would eventually be facing surgery. It may not work forever but, he's young and needs his small intestine for a long time... if we can put off surgery for a few years (maybe forever!), then this certainly gives some balance to the risks.
- the risks really are small, although, yes, they are there. I had wanted to try LDN, GI was insistent on remicade (or humira) - I read one or two studies/reports that remicade has a greater chance of being successful if used as a first treatment and/or if used within two years of diagnosis... I justified that, if we will eventually be using biologics at some point, I may as well allow it to be used when it has the greatest chance of being successful.
- untreated or undertreated crohns brings many risks to both health and quality of life, one of which can also be cancer (although, I don't have any stats on this).
- my son has faced risks every day: he's very fair skinned - how many times has he been sunburned because of not enough sunscreen but I don't keep him from being outside, he grew up playing hockey - I cringed at the hits and injuries surrounding the sport but he loved it and I didn't stop him from playing, when he and his friends started driving - I worried sick about teenage, inexperienced drivers (still do!) but the transition from inexperienced to experienced drivers is part of life, he'd go to friends' cottages in the summer - swimming, tubing, waterskiing all worried me but the fun and experiences all added to his quality of life. I think a big difference in these risks and those of these meds is that no one is handing us a sheet listing the risk factors and asking us to sign off on them!
We accept these types of risks because they improve quality of life and give happiness... hopefully, these meds will do the same.
Of course, I would much, much, much prefer that maintaining a normal quality of life didn't require that my son takes these meds and I always hope that he can eventually be off them but, for now, I try to appreciate that we, at least, have the option to treat with these meds.
Hugs... these are not easy choices. :ghug: