Single again

[stickman7755]

single again

So after dating my gf for almost two years I decided to move out to the western states as soon as I am healthy enough to do so and my former gf told me I was abanding her. I told her I was doing it because I didn't like living in the Midwest and that I felt better in warmer climate with more sun and better weather. We have always been fighting since I was hospitalized 3 times last year, including one major surgery about 2 months ago. No one believes me when I say I can't do things because I am sick. They say if I can drive across the country why can't I do other things. I tell them its because when I drive I can stop anytime I dont feel good but they don't believe me. I'm getting real frustrated and scared because everything I do is stupid to them. My parents keep on telling me I'm crazy even though I tell them I havnt felt this healthy since I was a little kid. No one seems to understand how serious crohns is. They all think I'm faking everything because I always was too embarrassed to say anything before now. I don't know what to do. I feel like everyone I love hates me now. Thanks for listening. I am proud to be a crohnie!

 

[handle]

Hey good luck Stickman,
I guess the bottom line is that you have to look after yourself as the number one priority. You have to do what feels right.
I also think those close to you have the capacity to help you and to understand. But it's such a serious and difficult condition that sometimes you have to really work hard to make yourself understood! And if that can't be done, then you have to distance yourself from things that affect you negatively. It's a matter of survival.
Take care of yourself and vent freely.

 

[Stephy Chelle]

Hey guy. I feel ya. I hate being sick with this disease. I've had it for as long as I can remember. I was practically a kid when I started have problems. I'm now 36 and just getting to the bottom of it. I was misdiagnosed for years. I knew I was sick but because doctors couldn't find the source they made stuff up. Or that's how it felt anyway. Family aggravated with me cuz I didn't feel well, but I didn't look sick. Friends were few and far between cuz I was too exhausted to do anything. And now I have a terrific husband and our beautiful daughter who both support me in their own way but they don't understand the disease. I'm trying to help them understand it but it's gonna take time. For you and your family too. Good luck to you in all your endeavors and keep your chin up. )))

 

[Grumbletum]

I agree, Stickman, I think you have to go with your instincts. You know the disease and what does and doesn't help you deal with it. Not moving when you that know it will help is akin to not taking your meds or eating things that aggravate, IMHO. Most of us try to avoid things that will make us worse and, sadly, sometimes that means people who mean something to us but just can't comprehend the nature of the beast that is Crohns.
I wish you all the very best for your health and the move. X

 

[Terriernut]

Stickman, I just hope the move improves your health and makes you happy! Sometimes ya just gotta do what ya gotta do! I do hope that you have friends and family where you are going, just in case you need help due to sudden illness. (I sound like your mother dont I? LOL)

 

[stickman7755]

I am staying with my Aunt and Uncle in Northern California. They told me I can stay with them as long as I would like. They are very understanding.

 

[glory_h]

I hope the change in weather helps you a lot!

 

[Terriernut]

I am staying with my Aunt and Uncle in Northern California. They told me I can stay with them as long as I would like. They are very understanding.

I am so glad to hear that! Now onwards and upwards for you. I truly hope the warmth and sunshine help you. I can tell you this, I didnt get really ill until I moved to Europe. While I was in the south in the sun...I was fine. And I'm pretty darn sure it wasnt just vitamin D. (didnt want to seem like your mum..but it's my age and I cant help it...hormones, what can I say LOL)

:ghug:

 

[stickman7755]

No worries, lol. I take a lot of supplements including a vitamin D supplement. I had to leave Colorado because there wasn't a lot of air with the high elevation. Low elevation with sunshine and moisture in the air has been the best for me so far.

 

[Terriernut]

I'm originally from Golden Colorado!!! Yeah...I know!!!!