What are the chances!

[Tiffany]

So my husband just had his colonoscopy today and was diagnosed with mild crohns I'm so upset he has to go through this. The weird thing is my doctor believes my belly problems are also crohns, my colonoscopy is on the 12th. I have been sick for 15 years and it hurts me to know he is sick too. I'm glad we have each other. I did suggest this form for him. Is there any advice you can give me about helping him cope with this diagnosis? Or any questions he should ask the doctor about tomorrow?
Thanks
Tiffany

 

[Mooch]

Im sorry to hear about your situations, it is always difficult to get the diagnosis. I still think about what it means to me and it has been about 5 months now. Just take each and every day as it comes and try and relax. Ask the doctors any many questions as you can.....both medical and diet. Diet doesnt seem to affect me much but the biological treatment i am on is great for my chrones (and fistula!).

 

[MDCA]

I'm sorry about the diagnoses. I was just told about 3 days ago and had a full on meltdown about it. I cried for ages, went numb, cried again, it's been a roller coaster! At one point I was sobbing because I really felt it wasn't just me getting the diagnoses, it was my boyfriend as well. We're only 23 and while we've been together for years, been there for each other through it all, sickness and health, I felt so helpless and the fact he has to come along for the ride- I felt so badly.

I felt almost guilty or like I was somehow just going to bring him down. He of course told me I was insane and that he would stick around no matter what. It's funny that one thing he said actually hit home the most. "You'd do it for me." and he's right. Of course I would, I would never even THINK of leaving.

When your husband gets down about this disease, or worries about YOUR feelings, maybe it would help to tell him what my boyfriend told me- if the roles were reversed, he'd do it for you right?

Since being newly diagnosed I have been reading like a madwoman because knowledge truly is power. I've ordered books and my bf plans to read them with me so we can BOTH be on top of it. As Mooch said, take it day by day and ask as many questions as you need!

Hope that's even the slightest bit helpful.