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Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl writing an article for The Guardian Newspaper about how I feel IBD and what happens in the toilet is not acceptable to be spoken about in British Society. I would love to hear anyone else's opinion, of any age and any gender to help me with my article and so I can quote to back up my theory in the article. I know I have personally struggled with dealing with Crohn's in high school which is why I feel very passionate about the article. Anybody's help would be much appreciated. Thank you, Millie Vincent.
 
Hi millievincent and welcome to the forum! :D

Normally new members need to ask permission to do something like this but in this case I'll let it slide. If you could think of some more specific questions to ask then you might get a lot more responses that way.

IBD involves so much more than what happens in the toilet. Honestly I think that gets focused on far too much making people think that talking about IBD in general is somehow gross. When in reality we deal with malabsorption, fatigue, depression, anxiety, pain (abdominal and joint pain), fevers, nausea etc. On top of all that we don't need to live in fear, isolation, or deal with judgement from others. What we need is understanding that this is a life long unpredictable disease with no known cure and that we do our best each day to try to function and live in society. I don't think it's possible to make people feel comfortable with words and phrases like diarrhea, constipation, bloody stool, mucus in stool, ulcers, fistula, abscess, vomit, rectum, hemorrhoids etc. but I also don't think it's necessary to focus on any of those things.
 
Must agree with you Jennifer the toilet thing is only a part of it and like many other long term chronic conditions,joe public are unaware of them(luckily)and it's partly down to the media who tend to gloss over the more horrible side effects to them.ibd and crohns are cases in point as they tend to concentrate on the toilet side of the conditions neglecting the long term pain and suffering many suffer,they don,t mention the major surgery,the inflammation that can go all the way through to your skin and is very difficult to treat.I consider myself extremely lucky that I only pop 28 pills a day,but I need to stay lucky.
So Millie if your article is published and I know the guardian is a bit of a heavyweight paper here,I hope it's factual and doesn't concentrate on the "I need to rush to the toilet"as it is a part of all bowel disease but isn't,t for some people the major part of it,having open wounds and surgeries that can take a very long time to heal is basically unknown.
 
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Hi all, I am very sorry for not asking permission, I will do in future! I was asked to find something eye catching which is not typically spoken about in society or the media, which is why I picked this subject. I am focusing on how I felt as a young teen too anxious to leave the house, not only cause I was incredibly ill but Incase I had to explain my condition to other people. But eventually when I was on 32 meds a day, and 6 hours of home schooling a week, I became more comfortable and confident. Through faith in myself I passed all 7 of my gcses and am a generally happier person when it comes to my IBD. I am writing it not only to educate the public but to inspire anyone who feels alone or embarrassed with IBD that in time as you feel more comfortable with your illness, what everyone else thinks doesn't matter.
My questions are:
Do you feel the public understand the severity of IBD or see it and the symptoms unimportant and almost comical?
How do you feel when explaining your condition now to how you did when you were first diagnosed?
Do you feel society think it is more acceptable for males to discuss what happens in the bathroom rather then females?
Thank you :smile:
 
I have also mentioned mental health in the article as it is an important aspect. Ihad therapy for 4 months due to isolating myself in my house for a year, I have tried to cover every aspect in the minimal 700 words I'm given.
 
My questions are:
Do you feel the public understand the severity of IBD or see it and the symptoms unimportant and almost comical?
How do you feel when explaining your condition now to how you did when you were first diagnosed?
Do you feel society think it is more acceptable for males to discuss what happens in the bathroom rather then females?
Thank you :smile:

I don't think the public knows much about IBD, but because I also have another medical condition that is extremely rare, from my perspective I think IBD dose have a public presence - it has large web forums such as this one, my hospital waiting room has adds for IBD support groups, etc.

I also feel IBD is far less comical than Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS). IBS has all the embarrassments but without the seriousness that the more severe health risks associated with IBD demands.

As for male vs female - stereotypically, I think men are expected to make more jokes about bodily functions, whereas women perhaps find it more acceptable to discuss bodily functions in private talks among other female friends, but these conversations would involve period problems, and bowel problems may not be so acceptable topics for conversation.

These answers are just off the top of my head of course.

Perhaps it would help if your questions were more specific, e.g. what groups of people are you talking about when you ask what is acceptable? What's acceptable in a hospital appointment (for example) would be very different than among friends at school; when you ask about public perception, are you talking about in the media, in peer groups or somewhere else?; when you ask about explaining our condition - explaining it to whom?

(Probably I spent too many years learning about designing experiments at uni ;) but I think I could give you more useful answers if the questions were better defined. )
 
Do you feel the public understand the severity of IBD or see it and the symptoms unimportant and almost comical?

I don't think the general public understands the severity, and I also don't think they see it as comical. Some people, sure, but in general, no. If I explain to someone what I actually go through with IBD, they don't laugh - they're surprised and sympathetic.

How do you feel when explaining your condition now to how you did when you were first diagnosed?

I'm a lot more comfortable with it now. I was never really embarrassed by it, but it's easier for me to discuss now because I have a better understanding of it and I know how to avoid discussing anything I do find awkward. There are a lot of different aspects of IBD - if I don't want to discuss one, I move on to another.

Do you feel society think it is more acceptable for males to discuss what happens in the bathroom rather then females?

I don't think gender matters. I do think that males are more likely to put a comical spin on their own situation or just keep silent about it. Females are more likely to be open about it, but probably with fewer people. I'm not sure if that really makes any sense. Edited: I'm basically saying the same thing unXmas said above.
 
Do you feel the public understand the severity of IBD or see it and the symptoms unimportant and almost comical?


I don't think the public has ANY idea what IBD is... I think that their perception is that IBD is just diarrhea caused by eating "bad" foods. While I don't think it's viewed as comical, I think it's viewed as controllable by simply avoiding trigger foods. There is no understanding that IBD is a complex disorder resulting from inflammation that can be anywhere in the GI tract. There is also an extreme lack of knowledge of the potential complications, such as fatigue, joint pain, depression, anger, chronic abdominal pain... Or that it can cause life threatening complications like a blockage or perforation.

How do you feel when explaining your condition now to how you did when you were first diagnosed?


When first diagnosed, I held some of the same incorrect notions stated above. I tended to focus on telling others what I couldn't eat and the severe pain. Now, I find it important to explain that IBD is actually an inflammatory process, and then share the common additional symptoms I mentioned above. I also now describe it as a spectrum disease, with each persons illness presenting differently. While some might be able to achieve remission with merely diet, others end up on TPN and with a colostomy... Everyone's experience is different which is what makes it so difficult to treat and to manage.


Do you feel society think it is more acceptable for males to discuss what happens in the bathroom rather then females?


I think this depends. I think women talk about bathroom events with other women and find that acceptable, but I know many men who don't even allow their wives to poop when they're home because they'd truly rather pretend that women never poop. I think in general, each sex finds bathroom talk acceptable for the same sex, but not the opposite.
 
UnXmas - isn't that ridiculous! I've heard it said two different ways by two different guys - the one STILL says "Shhhh you don't poop. Girls don't poop". So glad my hubby isn't like this haha! 3 months into dating he slept every night in the hospital next to me while I had to prep and have surgery, etc! Being in a hospital room 10 feet from the bathroom while doing a prep leaves no room for guessing what's happening in there... And he never said ewww once lol
 
UnXmas - isn't that ridiculous! I've heard it said two different ways by two different guys - the one STILL says "Shhhh you don't poop. Girls don't poop". So glad my hubby isn't like this haha! 3 months into dating he slept every night in the hospital next to me while I had to prep and have surgery, etc! Being in a hospital room 10 feet from the bathroom while doing a prep leaves no room for guessing what's happening in there... And he never said ewww once lol

How lucky for you to have someone so supportive. :) He sounds great. Pooping for healthy people can be embarrassing enough, we take it to a whole new level. :lol:
 
I am happy I spoke to my friends and coworkers about my issues. They are actually very compassionate and caring. They ask about pot luck items, what I can and can't eat, friends now ask before making dinner plans and I get only positive support. Never has anyone been mean or non-supportive. I am a male, engineering was my profession. My friends come from a wide variety of backgrounds and cultures. I actually learn a lot, people open up and share about afflicted family, friends, and send helpful links.
 
If i pass out, which i have in a bloody mess, it is very embarassing to be cleaned up and dressed by your work friends, or family. But they don't mind as much as you may think. As a matter of fact, they are nothing but super and wonderful. Even if they buy me men's diapers as a joke. I wear them at times now. No shame, I'm sick
 

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