Sailor,
Do you have a specific day/time to follow up with the surgeon? I would not let it go more than a week!
My son is now healing from surgery to drain perianal abscess. We went to a quick after-hours clinic on 7/2, the doc put him on flagyl and augmentin, and said follow up with GI in few days since my son had Crohns'. I didn't even know at time that this was related to crohns!
Called GI service and they said to bring them to ER at 6 in morning on 7/4 and ask for colorectal surgeon to drain it. Intern or resident did it in ER, then we had a follow up appt on 7/11 with senior surgeon. He saw it and said it needed to be operated on next day, 7/12, and be prepared to stay overnight. He ended up staying 3 nights.
I feel if I had been more educated initially and pushed for surgeon it may not have gotten this bad.
Bottom line is they have to follow the least invasive (i.e. costly for insurance purposes) methods first, but that can mean complications and more pain for patient!
Did they say anything about soaking in hot tub of water or epsom salts? That will help it form a head so it can be lanced or drained, which from my quick education on abscess over the past few weeks is really the only way it can heal.
Take care of yourself!!